So i'm scared to go to the "LADY DOCTOR" AHHH ..HELP?

Question

So i heard that they hurt..im 14 and i've never had sex. But i have started my period, they are very irregular..i don't know what to expect, and I'm FREAKED OUT...my mom made an app. i thin k on monday, but maybe Tuesday, anyway I've decided taht im gunna tell my parents i don't feel good and cough and cry really bad so i don't have to go? So why should i even have to go i've ad no sex. So what should i do IM FREAKED

The bad thing is that my mother lies about everything, thats why I've ALWAYS been scared to go to the Doctor, cuz i had to get sum weird treatment and i was worried so i kept say" what they gunna do" wil it hurt" she like NO then i hurt really bad so i dont evern TRUST her when i ask her about the doc. so i havent been to the doc in like 3 years.i NEVER go. I REFUSE

Answer 1

Dearest Bl
My sister is 14 and she got her period about 3 months ago. Well started and mom did the same thing, she cried and compained she did not want to go. But i reemember mom giving her the talk about girls health and how they are different and need special doctors care. So chill out, my sister told me is was pretty cool and she was a little scared but found out it was not that bad.
Good Luck

Answer 2

You should go. It does NOT hurt to have an exam. It's not the most comfortable thing to lie on the table with your feet in those stirrups... with someone you don't know "down there". But it's for your health. Not your torture. You'll need to have this done at least once a year, and optimally twice a year. I went for the first time when I was 14. It's just to check out everything and make sure it's normal. They use a tool called a speculum that is inserted and then expanded so that they can see your cervix. Then they'll remove that, and unfortunately, insert a finger and feel from the outside and the inside at the same time. It's uncomfortable, I won't lie, but it really won't last more than 5 minutes or so. Please, for your health, just go and get it done. Chances are your friends said it hurt because they don't want to admit it's just uncomfortable. Plus it's just embarrassing to talk about. And by the way, it's very normal to have quite irregular periods when you've just started. Be strong, and best of luck to you!

Answer 3

I am a nurse and you really are getting worked up over a whole lot of nothing. If you have never had sex, you need to tell the doctor who will be examining you, so she knows.
The doctor is going to ask you a whole lot of questions and just answer her and dont lie whatever you do.
She may do a pelvic exam, but I doubt it because you are a virgin.
Just relax and look at it as a learning experience. This is what makes you a real woman. She may want to put you on birth control pills to regulate your period though.
I am a nurse and work in a hospital. If you cry, she will expect it because all young girls cry in the office when they have to discuss personal things, so take a couple of kleenex.
Calm down my dear because you will do fine.

Answer 4

It's okay to be scared - this is something new and you don't know what to expect. But, it's important to see the Doc, especially if you're having irregular or painful periods - could be a sign of something that needs to be treated medically, could just be 'normal' for a young woman starting her period.

As for it 'hurting', I won't kid you, it's uncomfortable but definitely bearable. Be sure that the doctor / nurses know it is your first visit... that you are NOT sexually active... and that you are a little freaked out - this will be important because your muscles 'down there' will most likely be tight from the stress and your sexual inexperience.

Your best bet is to go. You will only be postponing the inevitable if you don't go now. You can practice relaxing at night when you go to bed - breathe deep and methodically, if you can fix your eyes on a point on the ceiling - and then you can try to use this technique when you're at the doctor's office - focus on something on the ceiling and breathe. It will be over before you know it! Good luck.

Answer 5

Yeah, you shouldn't have to go yet because your period is supposed to be irregular for a few years. Thats very normal. I have had my period for over 6 years and it is just becoming regular. Also at your age you shouldn't have to go to the doctor unless you suspect something is really wrong or you are sexually active. Any way, it can't hurt you to go. It does hurt at first, especially if you haven't had sex, but if your doctor is good he or she will try to relax you and make you feel comfortable. Don't let anybody tell you it isn't bad the first time you go cuz it takes a long time to get used to.
I was nervous as hell the first time, but the painful part only lasts a few seconds. You'll be fine. I'm positive. Don't try and skip out on it- just go. It really won't be too bad. You won't be happy, but it won't be bad.

Answer 6

You should talk to your mom about your concerns and reservations about going to the doctor. Explain to your mom, that once you start your period, it can take up to a year or so to "regulate". It's all new with your body. There is no need to go to the doctor just yet. Maybe do some online research of your own to back it up & show your mom that you want to wait a little longer & if your period does not regulate on it's own then you will go to the doctor.

Good Luck Congratulations on becoming a women. (I dont know why congrats, but thats what I was told ;)

Answer 7

I have no idea why you have to go at 14........I didn't go until I was 21. I was always told, sex or 21, whichever comes first. BUT if your mom really thinks you should go, ask her about it first and talk it over. And if you want, ask her what happens, or look it up online. I went with my friend for my first time too and it was extremely awkward, and it hurt a little but not a lot. I guess they have a "virgin" thing. Make sure you ask for that. Since you are only 14, your mom will most likely have to stay in the room with you. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You may not even have to have an exam if your problem is just irregular periods. Likely the doctor will just ask you questions about it and figure out what to do from there. If you are not having sex I don't think they will need to do an internal exam. If she does need to do one however, just close your eyes and think of something else to try and calm yourself down. It is not a pleasant experience for most women no matter what their age, however, it is not because it hurts, just embarrassing.

Answer 9

My periods were always irregular and I never went to the doctor but I probably should have. He/she might just want to put you on birth control to regulate your periods but i could imagine you are nervous at 14 and going to that type of doc. If you are that freaked out, then just tell your mom that you don't want to go. She should understand.

Answer 10

it's really not as bad as what you're imagining i promise! the first time i went to the gyno i was 19 and a virgin...i was terrified but it wasn't bad at all. if you're periods are irregular it is good for you to go get checked out and talk to a doctor just to make sure nothing is wrong. talk to your mom and tell her that you're scared and ask her to explain exactly what they'll do at the appointment. knowing a head of time will hopefully make you feel better. good luck!