found texts on his phone and he admitted it
2007-11-15 13:57:57 · 58 answers · asked by shell b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im cryin as i write this but im goin to leave him
2007-11-15 14:15:50 · update #1
i got a 2 year old and she got an 18 month old that looks like my kids
2007-11-15 14:20:56 · update #2
thank you all except a few!! for your kind words xxx
2007-11-15 15:43:05 · update #3
this is a difficult question. no one can't really tell you what to do. some will tell you to leave him and other will tell you to forgive him. the problem is that in a marriage there are a lot of feelings involved. YOU and only you can make a decision.
first you should take some time, to think if your relationship is worth another chance. if you think so and decide to forgive him. he has to know, he needs to fight for you, make you fall in love with him all over again. you two would also have to get theraphy because the trust will be gone and you need to reconstruct that.
if he is not woth it? he really doesn't deserve you. you will need your family and friend's help to be strong on your desicion.
Hope you can be happy again
2007-11-15 14:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by lamaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than being treated that way, especially your husband. It's not fair for you to be treated this way especially when you are suppose to be commited to each other.
If you really love the guy, try and work it out and see if he'll give you permission to kep tabs on him whether it's by phone, checking all of his accounts and maybe surprising him at the locations where he say's he may be. You can get co-workers involved if your close to them as well. You can do this until you start to trust him and if he screws it up again, think about a divorce.
Remember the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater". Believe me, it's a hard habit to break, and usually it's an impossible task. Just be thankful that you realize what kind of man he is now, and not 10-15 years down the road.
Good Luck
2007-11-15 14:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by inquire85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to know now after 2 years than after 20 or 30. Consider yourself fortunate in that regard. Not sure prior to the 2 years how much time invested you have, kids, ect. But follow your gut as you know what you should do for your own well being and mental health. If you stay with either one it's a constant reminder of what they did, no matter what they say or how sorry they are. You found out because you found the evidence and not from their own conscience feelings about it. They had none until you found them out.
I say at this stage of marriage, it's best to think about moving on and find someone faithful. You have to do for you and no one else now.
2007-11-15 14:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say I am so sorry. It hurts to the heart when your husband cheats. I have been there. But your friend. I would drop her ***. As far as your marriage think about it. Don't jump out of anger. My husband and I were able to put our marriage back together. But it hasn't been easy.Was it just sexual or was it emotional too? I think that makes a difference too. If he was emotionally attached to her then you need to dig into that. Make sure that he dosen't have feelings for her. Best of luck. Pray for your marriage. And don't try and get even. IT dosen't solve anything.
2007-11-15 14:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for you thats awful. You need to get the hell out and move on. And by the way, that friend of yours is an absolute witch.
Take care x
2007-11-15 14:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by superduper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really hard one because you've been betrayed by a friend and the man u trusted with your heart. sometimes its easier to walk away with your dignity than to stay and try to make logic out of an illogical thing. even if u forgive him and try to reconcile the marriage its something u won't easily get over.
2007-11-15 14:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for what happened, it is VERY PAINFULL, and it takes a long while to recover, but the best thing to do is, walk out on him and NEVER look back, if You let this one go away alot more will come your way.
best of luck
2007-11-15 14:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by suehellen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two suggestions....Boot hubby and choose your friends with more care. Cheaters are always going to be cheaters. The only thing that could make this worse is if you stay with the hubby (cheater) and keep the same friend.
2007-11-15 14:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Why ask me? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Man, I feel bad for you. I guess you are going to leave him, because I would, usually a cheater always a cheater. You will never trust him again if you do stay with him. Good Luck!!!!!
2007-11-15 14:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by zoey1176 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened with my partner and my cousin kicked her out since she lied hide that she was married & texting smsing flirting with my partner.Partner told me the truth wanted to work it out lets see how that goes.
2007-11-15 14:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋