2007-11-15 13:43:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you can build that trust back. But it's not going to be easy. It will take alot of communication. My husband cheated on me about 2 years ago and it was hard. But we put our marriage back together. Sometimes we still have bad days, but that's any marriage.
2007-11-15 13:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by specialsuber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many couples develop "plans" for rebuilding trust. For example, I know a married woman who got too emotionally involved with another man. She is someone who has always had male friends, and so she worked out an agreement with her husband that whenever she was going to be alone with a man in the future, she would call her husband and let him know. that way they each knew that there was no secrecy involved.
I know a man who got into affairs with women he met on the internet. He now allows his wife to monitor his computer use.
In other words, if the party who broke trust shows a willingness to be overly open about things, that attitude, over time, can help regain the trust of the other.
this is not a substitute for counselling. In fact, I bet counsellors will have a lot to say about this sort of thing.
I wish you both the best.
2007-11-15 13:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If you haven't learned to trust in in 18 months, you never will. It must have been an affair and if it was, you won't get over it. You'll be singing this tune 5 years from now.
2007-11-15 16:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't just turn trust off and on like a light-switch.
You learned to trust him in the beginning of the relationship....now you have to learn to trust him again....and it's going to take time and effort on both of your parts.
I suggest going to marriage counseling.
2007-11-15 13:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by saccardi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As most are mentioning, you both need to go to counseling. Trust is earned as is forgiveness. Both are tough and if you don't have the tools to do so, your putting yourself through alot. I'm only speaking from experience. My ex and I didn't, and we both have paid dearly for it.
Go and seek the help. Its not magic, you have to do the work!!
2007-11-15 13:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it is best to move on and divorce if you can not get over it why keep the marriage on the rocks. so either get over it or divorce and find a new life....that will work for you. and if it is cheating then he more than likely is still doing it my b/f ex and her got together after they divorced and well then her ex cheated again with the same lady at his work so check on him at work and check cell phone and make sure that is one way to trust again by making sure it is over on the cheating....good luck
2007-11-15 13:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling...or just make a determined effort to shut up, keep your fears to yourself and get over it.
2007-11-15 13:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one word--counseling
2007-11-15 13:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
by forgiving him and move on.
2007-11-15 13:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by firewall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋