What is "Too Young" when it comes to getting married?

Question

Should age even really matter, or should you go by the time you have been together with your other half?

Answer 1

You are technically almost an adult at 17, but you will continue to grow and change for many more years. You need to be certain of who you are and what you want (and he does too!). All of this takes time. I know it seems like it will take forever when you are looking forward to something, but you will be married forever....so do the smart thing and get it right the first time. Wait until 25 at least.

Answer 2

Both matter.
Here is a rule of thumb. DON'T GET MARRIED IF YOU:
are less than 25 years old,
have not been with the person for at least 2 years.

Why?
At 25 you have a little experience under your belt. You hopefully have a college degree also under your belt and a decent job. You know what you like and don't like in a "better half".
It takes about 2 years to really get to know a person. Sure, there are stories of couples that married young, after a very short period of knowing each other. And for every one of those, there are 1000 couples who would give you the same advice I'm giving you.
Bet on the numbers.

Answer 3

It all depends on the people. But what matters even more is that you marry for the right reasons. Not just b/c something happening that wasn't planned (if you get the drift).
My parents had a very short courtship. It was only about less than a year. But they've been married for 27 years. And they got married when they were 24 and 26 (still kinda young).
My sister on the other hand waited until she was 29 and my brother-in-law was 34 and they had a very long courtship (about 3-4 years) and they've been married for 5 years and are still going well.
So as you can see from my examples... it all depends on the people and the fact that they married for the right reasons.

Answer 4

age will always matter since that is when you are physically and emotionally matured enough for bearing the responsibility of starting a new family on your own being dependendent on your parents or others for financial support,. Your being with other half for any period of time should never be the critiria of marriage. ,Mentally , Biologically, financially and emotional maturity were kept in deciding the age of the prtners and made the Law.So too young is anything below the age permissible for marriage by the law of the land

Answer 5

I know that when you are young you want nothing more than to be with your beloved all the time, and marriage is a huge temptation. It has the added advantage of putting you beyond parental authority.

Yes, age does matter--A LOT more than how long you have been together. Fifteen year olds who have been together for two years should not get married.

You are old enough to get married when you
1. Are able to support yourself and dependents in case your spouse leaves or becomes disabled.
2. Have your life values figured out, and you have a goal and purpose for your life.
3. Are ready, willing, and able, to accept adult responsiblities.
4. Are willing to put the interests of the other person ahead of your own--sometimes but not too much.
5. Are willing not to have a singles or teen lifestyle anymore--staying home with a baby while all your friends are at a party or something.

Best to wait until your late twenties. I live in Taiwan, and sometimes Chinese people are bf/gf and engaged for up to ten years. It's not a bad idea.

I don't want you to be one of the people who writes to YA, five years from now, saying "my husband/wife is a good person, but I just don't love him/her anymore. We have grown apart, and I have found another who shares my values and goals more than the spouse does."

Where's the fire? Slow down. Don't get married too soon.

Answer 6

Well, both of these things have to do with it. You should wait until you are old enough to really decide what you want to do, about mid-20's. And no matter how old you are, you should never marry someone you haven't been with at LEAST a year. At least. I recommend longer than that. Probably three years or so. That way, you've gotten past the honeymoon phase and have been living in reality, as it were, with this person at least two years. If you can stand that, you may be able to get married. You have to realize, it's hard seeing the same person day after day. It sounds wonderful but it gets hard after about 5 years. Marriages last or fail depending on how you and your spouse choose to handle that.

Answer 7

Too young is under 18 years old. No, the time together has nothing to do with it. It has to do with the quality of time spent and only the people involved can judge that.

To all intensive purposes most would say my husband and I married in haste and we were stupid for doing so. We married in under 4 months of dating at 22 years old, and 7 1/2 years later we are still very happy. Sometimes, when you know...you know and there is no reason to dilly dally around.

Answer 8

The way I look at it is that forever is a very long time. You have to understand that marriage is a committment for life and you are going to come home to that person every day for the rest of your time on earth. So, I figure the later the better... but anything under 30 is too young if you ask me. Before then life should be lived to the fullest with no ties.

Answer 9

yes time matters. you shouldn't marrie at an Earlie life. you need to go to college and get a good job. if you married at an early time you are going to drop from school and you can become a no one in life

Answer 10

it really depends on how mature you are, but i would advise to wait until you are like 22 or something. don't get maried too young, you might not make the right choice. if you ARE mature enough, i guess you could get married when you are 19.