Okay here's the situation. I was really stressed by just having a baby, working, and going to school. So my friends asked me to go out with them to a club just to rid my mind of all my problems. I told my husband that I was just gonna be at a friends house having a couple of drinks. When the club was letting out I ran smack right into my husband in the parking lot. He was there with his friends too. He's upset with me and met another girl in the club who i later found out that he cheated on me with the very next day. What should I do about this? I dont think that was I did was so wrong when He showed up at the club too. But he got so mad that he ignored me for 2 days straight and cheated on me with a grl he just met that night.
2007-11-15 12:16:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him. Its sad that u had a kid with him. He isn't worth your time. I like it for my wife to have a girls night out. She needs to get away from our 3 kids on occasion just to relax and have a good time.
2007-11-15 12:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some explaining to do as to why didn't he tell you he was going out to a night club that night. You caught him and he turned it around on you,he is quick and very good at making up a lie when he is put on a spot. He thinks he is justified in cheating on you but i think he was doing it all along. Now you know why he doesn't want you to go to the night club,you caught him in his play area. Don't think he has never done this before because if you really think about it,something just don't add up.
I'm not saying that what you did wasn't wrong because it was but i have a husband like yours who doesn't want you to go out and have fun with your friends. Sure it's OK to go to someone home but not anywhere else. Your husband is a very jealous man isn't he,think about why that is,isn't it usually because he is hiding something from you.
Don't take his s h i t tell him (your just mad because i caught you at your own game. I will not let you turn this around on me ) If you let him get away with this he will do it again and again you can count on it.
2007-11-15 12:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband has been cheating before he ever knew about you going out,he just used that as an excuse to get away with it and theres no excuse for cheating.so why was he at the club in the first place?,did he lie to u about where he was going?or just didnt tell you?, so why is it he can go to clubs with his friends and you cant?,why not go out together?,i figure everybody around town likes that same club so he doesnt want you around so that he can cheat in peace without getting caught. theres probally few or a alot of woman at that club he's already been with.dont be afraid to be honest,dont be afraid to go out enjoy life and have fun. as for your husband well only you know what you want to do with that.
2007-11-15 12:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by The Misses 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never used this as a arguing point so it's tough to imagine why he would suddenly however it gives you pause to wonder if he has found someone else and is either preparing you or warning you. Either way I'd try avoiding the arguments and walk away from a fight. The name calling must stop immediately since it solves nothing.
2016-04-04 03:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he was wrong but so were you. Why did you lie to him if you weren't going to do anything wrong at the club? How does he know that YOU didn't cheat on him at the club, or that you were going to? THIS is why lying is never a good idea. He has no way of knowing why you lied or what you were going to do. I don't want to say you did this to yourself but you did have a hand in it. And of course, so did he.
Both of you did wrong. You don't think what you did was wrong. Maybe that's the first problem.
2007-11-15 12:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Both of you were wrong, but if he was that quick to cheat on you I am sure he has cheated on you before...especially if he was also sneaking behind your back going to the club.
Good luck and sorry you are going through this . . .
2007-11-15 12:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... so you lied and got caught; which gave him in his mind "justification" or excuse to go out and cheat. Although, I dont condone lying, he was dead wrong for cheating. Why would you want to be with someone who cheats after one argument? Who knows how many other times he's cheated? Be careful woman!
2007-11-15 15:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you can never argue with him again, for obvious reasons. evidently he never got the memo that angry make up sex is to be with the spouse/girlfriend ONLY.
or you can start some serious evaluating and/or counseling.
bottom line, he is all grades of wrong! i've been where you are in the fact of working, new baby, going to school, dealing with this and that, and needing to just hang with the girls. where you go hang out at should not be an issue unless of course it is you having an affair, then i'd see the problem. but clearly you were not, and have not, so he needs to seriously check himself.
2007-11-15 12:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Scary.
He may have cheated before and not told u.
You caught him out this time....but there may have been other times....
Focus on looking after your baby. That is and should be your top priority. It is also equally important to have time out with your friends.
Good Luck!
2007-11-15 12:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by decemberbaby 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Divorce. You are a liar and he cheated. There really isn't much different between the two of you but neither of you belong married to anyone until you upgrade your morals.
Lets hope the presence of a conscious is a recessive gene and the baby has one.
2007-11-15 12:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋