okay so this year ive switched from a private school to a public school the surroundings are very different. when i firt came to the public school i was friends with the "emo rockers" which is weird because i am verryy preppy. so recently ive stopped sitting at lunch with them and stopeed hanging around wwith them and ive been hanging around with the peacesign hippie preppy girls which i love to death now. my first friends dont really talk to me anymore except for one. and i jsut dont know what to do was it a mistake to leave the other behind?
2007-11-15 12:14:06 · 58 answers · asked by viki g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are going through what every teenager goes through - trying to find the right group of friends. My son is a freshman and he's doing the same thing as you.
My advice? Go with the friends you feel the most comfortable with, who treat you good and accept you for who you are! Screw everyone else. Be yourself and don't hang out with the toxic people!
2007-11-15 12:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're happy where you are then be happy. But don't lose old friends because they are just as important! Balance it out a little, make some time during the week to hang out with the Emos. Lables aren't everything, if you're worried about that at all.
Oh, and I came from a small, private school to a big, public school and I know how hard the transition can be.
2007-11-15 13:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in High school is hard period. But, If they we're your real friends they would hang out with you when your hanging out with her"Still if you blew them off, someone would at lease come over and talk to you with the new group and want to be part of what you are doing".That should tell you how important your friend ship is with anyone, They would want to be involved too. That's what is great about choosing your friends. I understand you feel bad, that's your couscous. But, you did what you did. They "Ur old group" will hopefully grow up and get over it. But, Don't let it effect your school work and who likes to be around you now. You will have you chance to make it up later. God made things happen for a reason!
Just enjoy being a teenager before those times are over and your old. Enjoy your friends now, then catch the other ones later in life. They might come around and then your able to say your peace.
Reminder. After high school you usually don't have time for friends. Me and my best friend (or any friend really) from high school never hang out any more! You sometimes go your separate ways. Then when you meet them later in life, They have so much going on and so happy to notice someone that they went to school with they probably wouldn't notice what happen so long ago?! Do what your heart tells you too.ok
2007-11-15 12:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by kolean_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends. Do you really miss the "emo kids?" Were you happier when you were friends with them? If so, then it might have been a mistake. However, if you are happy like you are now...I'd stick with it. Those two cliques of people do not typically mix. If I were you, I would try and talk to your "first friends" and see if maybe they want to hang out sometime. Still, stay in touch with everyone. That's what I did in high school, and I was completely happy not belonging to a certain clique...I guess you could say I was a clique whore :)
Good luck sweetie<3
2007-11-15 12:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by x3snowwhitex3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose to be friends with whoever you want, just as long as you're not making your old group feel bad that you aren't interested. I've spent all my life in private schools, all girl private high school, and then my senior year, moved and went to a public school. Very different, i understand. You don't have to feel bad that you left the group that you don't mesh well with, if thats the case. If you're more comfortable with one group than another, then there's no crime. You should enjoy your company. Just don't make the group that you left feel bad because they weren't who you wanted to really hang out with. Moving to a new school is all about changes and adjusting, and finding your new friends is a big part of that. So you will probably change your mind about a lot of things also in this new school/environment. Don't feel bad. Just make lots of new friends- and Good luck!
2007-11-15 12:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Brunette Colette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate how clicky highschool is! Why can't you be friends w/ everyone and why can't everyone be friends? I think as long as you're being yourself that's fine I do understand that sometimes you just fit in better w/ different kinds of people but there's not reason to like forget about others because obviously there was a reason you hung around them in the first place. It's okay to have more than 1 group of friends and just remember once you get out of highschool all this crap, sorry to say is NOT GOING TO MATTER!!!! So don't stress, have fun, and just be friends w/ whoever you have most fun w/ no matter who they are, what they wear, or what they do!!!! Everyone's different - thank God.
2007-11-15 12:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Meaghan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would have not have left the others behind i would have probably just alternated lunches with either group. Just go up to them and ask them why they are not talking to you. I recently switched from private skool to public and i was depressed the whole time and i made a whole lot of friends that year at the public skool. But the next year they just deserted me so be careful!
2007-11-15 12:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by LCM93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tottally drop them cause they were there for you from the start, but you also have to go for whats best for you and what you feel comfortable with. Just because you're friends with the preppy girls doesnt mean you have to stop being friends with the emo rockers! Just balance things off, ya know?
It wasnt a mistake, you just have to know how to find a balnce in your friendships
Hope i helped,
Sabby♥
2007-11-15 12:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Normal? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I read a story like this. Its called Whats up with Addie. Its not actually a published book, but i read it. One of the girls who used to be best friends with Addie, the main character who is just like you "preppy" is known as an emo girl.Addie ends up becoming friends with the "emo' girl anna, and they become good friends. Just because you hang with other people doesnt mean you cant hang with old friends.
2007-11-15 12:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem last year except i just moved from one private school to another one. When i first got there i had this friend that i didn't really fit in with so i started to chilll with other girls and they turned out to be my bestfriend. but i still keep in contact with the other girl to. the trick it to just sit down with the "emo rocker" girlies and just say how you feel. and if they are truly your friends they will completely understand and will only want you to be happy.
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2007-11-15 12:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by shea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋