I hate it how people can smell my fear. It's already annoying that i have?

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social anxiety disorder. They are so many rude peopl in the world. Why do I always get stupid comments. Like i have peopl come into my dorm and they act like it is their house. They say stupid **** like Why are you studying? I said because I have a test. They were like you don't need to study life is a test and I was getting angry. So i said that life is a test, but if you don't plan to study THEN DON'T GO TO SCHOOL AND WASTE YOUR PARENTS MONEY. Then, not to be mean, but I was walking with three fat people, so if i kept walking i would bump into to them so the logic is that I can walk behind them or walk on the grass for like a minute. They act as if I am so weird they were like umm why do you always walk on the grass there is plenty of room. Or when I was going outside i had a sweater on and I was warm, but the one girl who isn't even my roomate(but is always there ) told me where is my jacket. WHY DO I GET SOP ANGRY? IS IT NORMAL THAT I GET REALLY ANGRY WHEN PEOPLE TELL ME

ME STUPID QUESTIONS. HOw can i calm myself down. excuse my grammer, i was writing this in a rush.

i also went to get my nails done and I 20 years old, but whatever I do or say she always has to remind me that i look 14. I do look 14 ( which will be an advantage when I'm older), but why is shes always saying every 5 minutes God you look like your 14. I always take care of myself and tweeze my eyebrows. Trust me i would never go out of my house with unplucked eyebrows and the lady was like so who is going to do your eyebrows today. ( in my head i was like what is she talking about). I said no one and she said you need to get your eyebrows waxed. In my head, i was like I'm paying you and your telling me stupid comments. It doesn't matter where i go. I always get stupid comments like these.

ITS JUST SO WERID PEOPLE SAY GOOD AND BAD THINGS ABOUT ME AT THE SAME TIME. tHEY TELL ME i'M GORGEOUS AND THEY RAISE MY SELF-ESTEEM AND THEN 5 MINUTES LATER THEY START TO CRITICIZE ME. iT'SLIKE A PATTERN.

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Honestly, do you think people read a book that tells them how to handle their relationships? That we all get some great and wonderful book of social etiqute that allows us ALL to see on the same page. Its even worse then that! We are actually taught the worst possible ways to handle relationships for reasons that run so deep that we actually have an unbelieveable flaw'd veiw of how love works. Personally I know your pain, I just handle it differently. See the name, thats right, I would of told the girls they were fat and they keep bumping into me. I would of told those guys, hey my room, you out, your not my friends, peace, door slam. That lady I would of turn to and said! "Hey I was feeling good a second ago until you pride bashed me for a bad eyebrow job, just do my f'in nails and be quite." I would of been more compassinate really, so I digress, but the point is to be honest about the way you feel, guess what happens? THOSE THAT GENIUNELY CARE ABOUT YOU WELL STAY AROUND YOU! Those idiots who don't and are just going thru the motions to live their lives, well hit the ground running. You are an extremely intellegent, very honest with yourself, and somewhat realist individual. That makes you powerful in my book, us that power to make your world in a way you can tolerate. I've got deeper reasons I could go into about his stuff if you'd like to understand better the process behind this actions people do, shoot I've got an e-mail. If not, all you need to realize is your hurting yourself really, becuase you havn't found your own way to cope with this behavior. Mines extreme honesty with a bit of compassian to keep people from getting angry. You have to find your own style, but a lady like you, I'd hope, would realize if you get good at this, could help alot, good luck with yourself and all your endavors........