I'm 41 years old, and life just doesn't seem to be getting any better. I've been with my live-in-boyfriend for nine years and every day seems to be a trail. Sometimes I really think being single is the way to go....Am I crazy?
2007-11-15 11:57:38 · 15 answers · asked by cissy f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you go into a relationship with the understanding that it's your job to make your own self happy and that the only thing your partner is there for is to love you. Sometimes love isn't enough for someone who doesn't no how to love and expects the partner to magically make everything better, everything the way he or she thinks it should be, the way it reads in the fairy tail books.
You are single you just live with your boyfriend, sorry but anyone can do that. Your making him happy by not getting married. Hell what guy wouldn't prefer a live in girlfriend to a wife. A girlfriend can be deposed of much easier then if you were married. That could be your problem right there.
2007-11-15 12:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as happily ever after, but . . .
1. Some days are happier than others.
2. It doesn't mean that things will just magically fall into place. You have to work at your relationship.
3. Even the best of partners cannot possibly deflect every single moment of pain and sadness that will enter into your life.
If you are not happy with your boyfriend, then maybe its time to go your separate ways. You're not married, so maybe you do need some time on your own.
2007-11-15 12:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, there is not such thing as happily ever after. Life isn't a fairy tale. No, your not crazy. It sounds like you are dissatisfied with your life. That is okay. Examine your life and the things you don't like. Make a plan to change those things then change them.. Your not dead yet! You can still be happier than you are now if you have the courage.
2007-11-15 12:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to believe there is a "happily ever after." That's not to say it doesn't have it's moments and it's not without hard work.
Sometimes, it takes putting yourself in control of your own happiness and not waiting on someone else to create it for you.
At 40, I got divorced, moved, changed careers, got out of debt and I can honestly say I'm happier than I've been in years! I also have a much better outlook on the rest of my life!
Good Luck!
2007-11-15 12:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by My2Cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy and this guy might not be the one for you. I met my wife when she was 42 and had just left her husband of 23 years because the marriage just sucked. We've been together eight years now and we've been married six. Of course life is always a struggle, but our relationship is great and we've found our "ever after". I hope you find yours...........
2007-11-15 12:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Dave B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, one would not exist with out the different. think of roughly it - the only reason we are satisfied is that all of us understand what it quite is to be unhappy, indignant, perplexed, embarrassed, etc. with out those issues, we don't understand what happiness is, because of the fact the innovations adapts and turns into conscious of our new standards and could locate new issues to be unhappy approximately. seem at rich human beings. Are they any happier than any human beings? No, in addition they adventure soreness and sorrow, only with a diverse standard of what motives happiness. might they be happy with the comparable issues that make you satisfied, or might it take lots extra for them to sense the comparable happiness? i don't understand - i'm no longer rich. I honestly have each and every thing i ought to stay a satisfied existence, nevertheless I additionally opt to be waiting to do extra. That serves as a motivation for me.
2016-10-16 21:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't crazy.
Yes, there is a happily every after. It doesn't always look the same as we imagined it would, but it exists. Sometimes you need to take some sort of action in your life to find it. I found mine at 44.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 17:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness comes with commitment, My wife & I met & 5 months later Married. Now I'm 45 & been married for 26 years, I'm very content and happy, as is she. If your on trial all the time neither he or you will ever be happy.
2007-11-15 12:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure have you not seen the movie Shreck? And noyou are not crazy, but maybe you should consider marrige over playing house the benifits are much better.
2007-11-15 20:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Happily ever after" does not necessarily mean "happy all the time". The best advice i could give would be to do what makes you happy. No one can tell you what makes you happy - deep down you know.
**Live for today..there may be no tomorrow**
2007-11-15 12:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by everafter325 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋