you a very personal, rude question?...You know how nosy people can be...i feel it is fine to just protect yourself!!! what is your take on that..By the way,, the little lie you told will NOT hurt anyone..
2007-11-15 11:52:02 · 12 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
~Why bother to lie at all? Simply, and politely, tell the person that you feel that the question is inappropriate or something that you don't wish to discuss.
Protect yourself with some backbone -- not lies -- white or black or green. That or just go on being a coward and a fraud.
2007-11-15 11:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is really very little we should lie about. I suppose a little white lie to me would be one told in place of hurting someones feelings with unnecessary truth. Like if someone asked if they had an grotesque nose. Rather than look at it and think wow it is grotesque and tell them, tell them it is a unique feature about them like any other feature and some will find it attractive some won't just as they may your.....feet or lips or something.
I guess I would try to enlighten my truth and add my own undesirable for them to think about in comparison.......
If they ask me a personal rude question I would probably ask them why on earth they'd be asking me that......as they probably don't want to answer my question any more than I do theirs....... or I'd say Hmm.....are we trading secrets??? I mean will this be an equal swap both ways?? That usually makes them aware its private when they see their own would be and decline sharing...... If you aren't direct with a nosy person, not mean just equal in conversation, they tend not to come back for more inquisitiveness....... if you don't make it easy, they usually don't want to work so hard for the information and leave you alone.
2007-11-15 12:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I guess it is okay to do that sometimes.
Ofcourse, u know how unpredictable life can be too. Dont be surprised if someday, that lie is caught. So one takes a chance as well. Use your good judgment. I am certainly not advocating lying, but I am saying, there r certain situations where it's ok. For example.....there is this girl who keeps bugging me to meet her and asking me how are things going on with a guy in my life, sometimes I have to make excuses that I am busy and that everything is well and good, even when I am free and even when I am having a bad time in my life. It's really not her business. But, we live in a society - and hence I cant tell her off when she is herself being polite (altho nosy) to me.
2007-11-15 12:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think I mean this in a harsh way because I don't mean it that way but, I don't think a white lie is OK because it makes you a liar. If someone asks you a personal, rude question there are other ways to handle it, rather than lie. How about
Why do you ask?
Why do you want to know?
I won't answer that.
It isn't your concern or business.
OR just silence.
Good luck
2007-11-15 11:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by penpen522 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it either but then I'm a very straight forward and blunt person.I woulda smiled real big and said in my most polite Mary Poppins spoonful of sugar voice that its impolite to ask personal questions of people who are still trying to figure out where they want to fit you in their lives.Thats the diplomatic way but really I woulda saved the wee white lie for a later date and said sorry but its none of your dern business but thank you for asking:)
M.G
2007-11-15 11:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Malia G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is that personal or rude, tell them so and refuse to answer. That way, they learn manners and you protect yourself by maintaining higher standards than the asker.
2007-11-15 11:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate the expression "white lie". A lie is a lie.
2007-11-15 11:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, tell them you don't care to disclose that information. Don't lie. That's just immature and stupid.
2007-11-15 11:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If somebody asks me a rude personal question I may brake his arm. If it's a woman I'd tell her to stick it and mind her own business. I hate rude people.
2007-11-15 11:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in response, ask the person asking you: "why would you need to know that?" it is not rude, but makes that person come up with a REASON for even asking you--that will stop them cold from doing it agian.
2007-11-15 12:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋