He went to a prostitute to have one of his fantasies acted out on him and your left with being asked for forgiveness. They say porn addiction can lead into men having and wanting it acted out and say its simular to taking drugs. You start off with marijuana and then get into heavier stuff, well they are saying its the same for porn addiction. What are your thoughts on this?.
2007-11-15 11:45:56 · 25 answers · asked by Live_For_Today 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Porn is safe: no one gets diseases from it, or gets pregnant, or runs away to be with a partner. Going to hookers is cheating, but I wouldn't call it an affair, as it has little to do with affection and a lot to do with lust.
I'd make him get tested for STD's and wear a condom until the results come back.
One episode doesn't indicate an addiction. I've consorted with hookers about 6 times in my life - some of the episodes were unpleasant and a couple were pleasant. Porn doesn't lead to using hookers, any more than marijuana leads to heroin. It does indicate that his tastes are probably sluttier than yours, and it would be good to hash this out.
2007-11-15 11:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is crap, a big pile of it. It is an excuse to go get a twisted fantasy fulfilled that he knew would not be proper to ask his wife to do for him. To me it is cheating, getting any type of sex perform on you or with you from anyone other then your spouse/partner is cheating.
start off with marijuana and then get into heavier stuff, you only do that if you want to. Pot doesn't lead to heavier drug use, you decide you want to try other stuff.
Now as for watching porn, lots of people watch porn & don't go out & get a prostitute to play out what they saw in the porn movie. Everyone has fantasies, & there are many that remain just that, you don't go out & cheat to make it come true if you are married.
2007-11-15 11:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he's wanting you to divorce him and you should. Prostitution is illegal. Do you want to get a call from the cops some day telling you he's in the pokey? Do you want to go get checked out at the free clinic for STDs, some of them deadly? Do you want to wonder where he is when he's not in your sight? It's time to let this man live out his fantasies and you to move on with your life with a man who won't do something so disgusting. And yes, this kind of addiction grows until it's out of control. It's like drug addiction only worse. Ask any pedophile.
2007-11-15 11:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not an emotional affair but it is a sexual affair. I think porn and going to a prostitute are two totally different things. He is addicted to sex in general. He will eventually get worse and worse. He needs help. The wife should leave him.
2007-11-15 11:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i have to be honest, if he wanted you to act on a fantasy with him and you shot him down and in passing may have mentioned go to a prostitute, he may have taken you literaly. so be careful what you say, and as far as the porn addiction and the marijuana thing? i don't think that that is all true for everybody. maybe some out there, but definately not all! i watch porn all the time, but i'm not out there screwing everything...i'm happy in my marriage...
2007-11-15 11:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by loriloriloriloriv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, this is the same as an affair. If he is addicted to porn, get out especially if there's kids around.
2007-11-15 12:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know about the porn addiction, but the fact that he had sex with another woman is adultry. Once a cheater always a cheater. Christ said adultry is the only reason for divorce. If you feel you can trust him, than try to make it work. I would end the relationship.
2007-11-15 11:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by splash 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yuck...get his @ss checked for STD's if you are staying with him. If you forgive him though, I'm thinking he will do it again since he is heavy (addicted) to porn and now a prostitute..that is low down and SO dirty.
2007-11-15 11:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes it is an affair, unless you permitted it. I don't think porn is addicting or leads to worse, I think it is all based on the person and if they have an addictive personality.
2007-11-15 11:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by glennwalker1971 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Live for today,
If this is the way you describe your partner then I truly believe you are with the wrong person. Forgiveness is another word for weakness. Are you weak? I think you know what you have to do? If it was me they would be out on there ear, there is a fine line between fidelity and infidelity (NOT!), guilty as charged. Best of luck!
2007-11-15 11:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋