I'm more of a homebody, and am perfectly content hanging out at home doing projects and home improvements. I'm scared I'm not going to meet any guys this way, but I'm comfortable the way I am. Are guys even attracted to my kind of woman? I'm just past the whole "club" thing and don't know how else to meet people if I don't go out, but I'm not happy doing that? Does this make sense?
2007-11-15 11:25:55 · 23 answers · asked by Princess Fred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol, no, you are the kind of woman that men actually try to find and are hard to find, and is because their life-habit, not many (or none) wants the one you meet in clubs or while holding any kind of drink, I'm talking when a man is looking for a long term relationship. Do this, stay at home as you always do, and join www.meetup.com and do some of the activities of your interest, that sounds like a nice lifestyle and you can forget the existance of clubs and all that lifestyle you don't like.
2007-11-15 13:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's really nice. I'm 29 and married and now very much a homebody - I love the peace and quiet. But I have to admit that when I first turned 21 I was an unstoppable night club queen - going 5 nights a week. By 23 it just got old, got boring and the quality of people was truly lacking.
Relax and enjoy this time; get to know yourself and be confident with who you are - which sounds like a very good person!
2007-11-15 23:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing, and feel the same, past the clubbin and bar hoppin days, but when ever friends invite me out I go, and the same with home parties and now that the holidays are coming around you have lots of celebrations.
What I usually do is volunteer to help in some way so that I am busy while I'm there and at the same time I get to meet new people. I haven't found love yet but I have made many new friends and that's cool.
2007-11-15 12:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes perfect sense, I'm the same way, have been my whole life. Yes, it's a bit more difficult to meet people when you don't go anywhere, I ran into this problem when I was dating. For a while, I was working in a big grocery store, so I met people this way - my ex-spouse was originally a customer at my store, this is how we met. Then I got my "real job", which was in a small studio; sometime later, I got divorced, and had no way of finding potential mates in real life - so I got on the online personals sites, and started meeting people this way. I met many great guys, had a few relationships, and ultimately met my husband through a personals ad. He's the same way I am (kind of "socially challenged"), so he was having the same problem; we are a great match. I don't know if you're comfortable with meeting people online; I was comfortable with it, as I had been on the internet for many years, and had met several friends through the online communities before I even thought of online dating.
2007-11-15 11:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are going through a divorce right now, it's perfectly normal to want to wait and think things over before rushing into anything new. The death of a relationship- in this case, of your marriage- is not to be taken lightly, and you need time to grieve and learn from your experience.
When you are ready to move on, you will know.
But don't pressure yourself into going out and accepting blind dates just now....Give yourself time to heal.
As for meeting people in the future, I don't think internet dating is a good idea. Maybe joining a book club or a cooking class would work out better. Church can also be a good idea if you want to lessen your chances of meeting a loser, IMO.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 12:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just matured which is a good thying you sound like the type of woman that will find a sweet tender man that will take care of you because you are sweet natured! If you go out you don't have to go to bars and clubs those are the WORST places to meet guys as corny as this my sound you might be able to meet a great guy at Church! Anyways I hope you get some great answers and Good Luck to you!
2007-11-15 11:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your just getting out of a relationship that must have caused you some grief. There is no time line for getting back in the 'dating" world. Do the things you enjoy doing. If that is doing projects around the house, do them.
Join a church, some type of social setting that gives you contact with others.
It maybe a year or so before your really ready to startup a relationship............and thats okay!
2007-11-15 11:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by michael w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to try to make things work because if you really wanted to pursue a divorce, partying and meeting others would take first priority even over your feelings. You are just battling pain and hurt so it's perfectly normal not to feel like partying. Most good husbands aren't partiers. My hubby was never a partier even in high school or college. It just wasn't in his blood. I on the other hand, well, he trained me and groomed me into domesticality. Thank God. You will meet others trust me. You will meet others once you have your "me" time and recup. Hang in there okay!!!
2007-11-15 11:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your gonna meet someone who has the same intrests as you do that goes to the same places you do maybe you'll meet someone at home depot when you doing one of your home projects you never know. but if your past the whole club thing then you don't want to go to a club because you'll wind up meeting someone who is not your type who doesn't have the same intrests maybe you'll meet someone at a barbcue or someplace else you don't have to go to a club to meet someone.
2007-11-15 11:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Chargers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are older now and not in the partying mode anymore nothing wrong with that. I have done my partying when I was younger and never met a guy at a bar worth spending time with. There are other places you can find love. They have love clubs that you can join like match.com or find a local one where you can find love in your hometown. Start doing things that you enjoy.
2007-11-15 11:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋