I have a friend that has hurt me on several occasions. I can honestly say that I've hurt her as well. The majority of the offense I've received has been a result of this friend saying hurtful things to me and saying negative things about me to others. I have also spoken hurtful words to her out of anger.
This friend has expressed remorse for her actions, but I am having trouble letting her back into my life. We just seem to clash on many occasions because of our differing beliefs.
She expresses the desire to hang out with me now that she's apologized, but I just don't know if it's worth it to resume our friendship. I don't want to hurt her anymore, but I'm not sure how to go about dealing with her in the right way.
I need some wisdom. Thank you for your suggestions.
2007-11-15 11:22:14 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO...I did this to someone here several weeks ago, and I missed not talking to him everyday...if she was a real friend..you should make up. Saying something in anger really hurts...you need all your friends...
and it hurts when they are NOT around.!!
2007-11-15 11:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same position as with you before but I am the one who caused a rift between me and an old high school classmate. I was really sincere and apologized on my behalf but she forgave me and changed her mind again, wanting some "space" so I left her alone...
Give her another chance if she meant well with her sincere actions and see if you two could work things out with your differences... In relationship, one has to give and take and also learning how to compromise... But if your heart can't bring around to mend the broken friendship, then maybe its telling you to let go of this friendship. It's painful and sadly, there's comes a time that all relationship must come to an end.
For me, it was a painful experience just as bad as getting over your ex-boyfriend... As much as I missed her friendship, it was time for me to move on and enjoy the memories I had with her. Best of luck to both of you.
2007-11-15 23:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, give her one more chance if she is genuine in her apology. And I don't know make it clear to her that this is her last chance of restoring the friendship. It is not appropriate to keep a friendship while arguing all the time, it just distresses you, you don't need that.
2007-11-15 19:30:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's an old friend in my life who hasn't spoken to me in twenty years because I could not talk the corporation that owned my apartment building into renting my apartment to him when I moved out.
2007-11-15 21:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to admit that both of you are guilty of hurting feelings, yet, you don't seem to feel her apology is genuine. If you have to work at friendship, guess what? It's not really friendship.
2007-11-15 19:28:18 · answer #5 · answered by Semp-listic! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if ur not getting along u should stop interacting with eachother, that's the good thing about friends u can disconect anytime unlike family!
what's the point if u argue and hurt eachother ?
2007-11-15 19:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by sab 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone in your life is causing you undue stress or angst on an ongoing basis (and/or vice versa) and it's clear you can't resolve it, then it's probably better to remove that person from your life. Excise the cancer.
2007-11-15 21:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
your suposed to be able to count on friends and if your friends are saying mean things behind your back you need new ones...
2007-11-15 19:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by amn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is so rich as to be able to afford losing a friend?
2007-11-15 21:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you feel better or worse when you're around this person.
2007-11-15 19:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋