Why is this more acceptable than a woman having a fantasy about being with two or more guys?
2007-11-15 11:18:47 · 19 answers · asked by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
*Shrugs* done it, so hence not a fantasy.
It's no more or less acceptable than 2 guys 1 girl, though I've never done that I'd probably have to be very comfortable with the guy because men tend to be competitive and if you are going to do threesomes and enjoy them, then everyone has to feel good about it.
In practical terms women tend to be more comfortable around each other sexually than (straight) guys.
The reality and fantasy are quite different anyway if we're talking real people. Got to be considerate to everyones vulnerabilities and make sure everyone involved is emotionally stable enough and secure enough in their own identity to participate or it will just end up being horrible. Probably true of every sexual relationship irrespective of how many people are involved.
2007-11-15 12:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Twilight 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
You know that used to be the case for me. Granted if that happened and I was in a threesome, I definitely wouldn't complain. But as I have gotten older, and I'm pretty young by they way, 23, lol. Threesomes just don't seem anymore exciting to me than having sex one on on with a sexy girl. So it's not really that much of a fantasy really. Yeah seeing lipstick lesbians have sex in porn or whatever turns me on. But so does straight sex just as much too. But seeing girls makeout, has lost it's luster for me. It's nice, but most of the time you can see that the girls are doing it for the attention and just the way it's played out, makes it more synthesized than genuine. And part of the allurre other then the attractive women was the shock value. But since movie directors have chicks kiss in every other movie nowadays and all over the media, the shock value is completely gone now. It's nice seeing chicks kiss, but I'm not crazy about it or obsessed like some guys are.
My jaw doesn't drop to the floor when I see girls make out or get really excited lke some guys. Because like I said, it has become so routine in the media, I almost expect to see it. Many men fantasize about having sex with two or more girls probably because of feeding off of porn and the media I would say. I have heard other guys say before that threesomes were not worth it as it caused problems and jeolusy for their relationship. And it was not as great as they thought it would be and is better off being seen in porn. I do believe the media feeds a lot of this fantasy. Because threesomes can be fun, but one is bound to be left out, jealous, or one of the women not sexually satisfied or the man have to pull double duty on both of the women.
Well the reasonn it's not as acceptable for women to have such fantasy is probably the same reason women who are sexually active or promiscuis is seen as a slut. Kind of like that double standard.
2007-11-15 11:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Brennan Huff 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A lot of explanation are possible:
- Biological one: Mankind is animalistic at heart. Several animals accept a polygamic kind of sexual activities to ensure having lots of puppies with their own dna. Men and Women with time developed monogamy to keep the best aspect of a family, and to grow and watch their offspring longer, but the base instinct are still there
- Sociological one: Years of porn in adolescence make a grown-up man see a threesome as something full of pleasures, in which the direct stimulation of sexual activity is reinforced by the more mental one of seeing two naked woman making out each others. Like having sex, and watching a porn in the same time. If a man has not outgrown his adolescential urges...
2007-11-15 11:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by qzmaster591 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Ms Sophi, have I told you you're the best?
Women would have similar fantasies as often, if they allowed themselves to be sexually open and it was as acceptable. I think a lot of men fantasize about it but when it comes down to it, some back down, and others realize it wasn't what they expected. Firstly, threesomes have the tendency to bring out unpredictable feelings. Women are moody enough in the every-day life...being in a threesome with two of them can be the ultimate triggering of all kind of emotions. The physical part is relatively easy to manage for an experienced guy, but handling two women's emotions can be pretty challenging. Secondly, a threesome is not what it used to be LOL. Nowadays, women can get into each other more than they get into the guy, making him feel neglected, hurt and disappointed because the fantasy of the threesome was for him to feel like the "king"....He wants to watch the women do their thing and be into each other, but only to a certain extent...and he can't always control that "extent"...
I know I'm going to get a lot of thumbs down for this, but I think if a woman has an open mind, she'll find herself fantasizing about a threesome with two women and a man, maybe as much as a guy does.
PS: Where is my ET to back me up on this? LOL
2007-11-15 16:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Yea guys, believe it or not, women do fantasize about having more than one--more than three men. The problem is guys not wanting to be in competition. Girl-on-girl action sickens me, and I would never participate in that. But whatever turns people on, as long as they're consenting adults, go for it. I could tell you lots of stories, but I won't. Let's just say the reality is never as good as the fantasy...that goes for everything in life.
2007-11-15 13:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Smile. Because it is a great compliment to his virility and general desirability ( self esteem ). Men do think about sex every 3 seconds ( statistics will support that comment ). Women have more things on their minds to worry about it as often as that. However, this fantasy is pretty common among females as well as males. Some of us actually made this particular fantasy a reality and lived to tell a tale. In short, if you are brave enough to bring your sexual fantasies to life ( men usually are ), you might as well enjoy it. I just don't get one thing: why should the rest of us worry about that?
2007-11-15 16:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why do YOU think it is unacceptable for a woman to have fantasies about being with 2 or more men. Most of my fantasies include at least 2 men.
2007-11-15 12:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋
It's only more acceptable because more men assert their desire to have two partners.
If women vocalized their fantasies, perhaps it would appear more acceptable.
TERA, I think this notion of acceptability is largely an issue which exists in the heads of women, and nowhere else.
2007-11-15 13:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
I think zen has a point. Women have interesting fantasy lives, too, they just don't advertise about them.
To answer your question: I think the "plot" of that story is that the girls are just SO overcome with lust, that they couldn't resist. But of course, if only a man were handy.....
2007-11-15 11:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by Junie 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
We've got two ends, two hands, two feet so anyone one person could easily be 'sexual' with at least 6 other people.... or rather be sexual-ized!
Its not more acceptable, its just guys think about sex more.
2007-11-15 15:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by tacs1ave 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋