what should i do?

Question

i am very afraid of pap smears. what's so crazy about it is that i have had 3 over the past couple of years. im going in for one on monday and im extremely nervous. i get like this each time. i know it's important to have one done but i just can't seemed to be relaxed when i get there. i wish there was some type of relaxing medication that would help.i jus hate to go through this for the rest of my life. sometimes when i schedule appointments for pap smears i b so nervous til the next day i call and reschedule it for a later day or a whole month. the later the better! this sound ridicoulus huh? i know your probably saying it's not that bad but what should i do.im 20 yrs old n not very sexually active. i haven't had sex in months. This will feel like a virgin all over again. someone help please! any advise would help. thanks

Answer 1

I would recommend making an appt with the doctor to discuss your concerns about the pap smear. If they are really good they will try to help you relax during the procedure.

Answer 2

I don't really know what to tell you. I'm 22 and in the same boat. The best thing for me has been talking to my fiance about it. He knows I hate going because of a previous experience I had when I was younger. He doesn't always know what to say but he lets me talk as much as I need to. When I'm going through it I try to do deep breathing. I don't know what else to tell you. It doesn't sound ridiculous. I know you'll get a lot of answers telling you to suck it up for your health but it's hard! I know it is. You might consider talking to the doctor or nurse beforehand and trying to build up a strong doctor/patient relationship. This could help you feel more open. You could also talk to them about your fears before it happens. This might not be easy for you to do, but it could help them be more understanding and you're not the first patient they've seen with fears. You're definitely not alone. I applaud you for actually going in and going through it. I have to for my medical problems and while I hate it I feel obligated. A lot of women just wouldn't go at all. At least you're going. Hang in there.