A friend of mine (let's call her R) likes another friend of mine (he's A). R seems to really like A, and she asked me otp yesterday to ask A who he liked. (I was already pretty sure he doesn't like her) So the conversation (on the bus, just me and A) went like this:
"Who do you like? I was told to interrogate you,"-me
"For who? R?"-A. "Ok, let's just say it's definately not R"
"Why are you asking about R, do you think she likes you?"
"Oh god, I hope not. I don't think so. I usually think not about these things, but I'm trying to be optimistic in this case. Ugh, R..."--A *shudders*
I know she bugs him, and I think he may like me. (he's uber nice to me and stuff, and his little bro said so)
But R always thinks A flirts w/ her (when he doesn't)
How can I break it to her gently? She'll want to know what he said... Should I tell her everything?? (except him maybe liking me, that'll kill her)
And how should I tell her?
2007-11-15 10:01:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
R does have a crush on another guy; but he doesn't like her back either (i'm almost positive) so i don't want to tell her to pursue him...
2007-11-15 10:02:00 · update #1
Anyways about your post, just tell her the truth. Don't say that she annoys him to no end, but just say he doesn't have a crush on her. She doesn't need to know the exact words. She'll understand and be upset for a while but she'll get over it and move on to another.
2007-11-15 10:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by Brigit B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to know that he is not interested in her.Tell her you asked if he liked anyone and he said no.That he likes her for only a friend and he doesn't think of her in any way but that.You can tell her you heard he may like you but you are not sure , in case you and him hook up later on down the line.You should always try to be as honest as you can with your friend.Sometimes even the truth hurts.If she stays a friend then she is a good friend.If not then you don't need friends like that.Good luck I hope you work it out.
2007-11-15 20:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so don't listen to that guy. He's an a$*. It takes a MEGA loser to put effort into writing a novel of demeaning things, like he just did. It was a little hard to read, but I've seen much, much worse!!
I think you should just tell your friend. Don't tell her that HE likes you, just tell her that he doesn't like her. Plus you don't even know if he really does like you, so you wouldn't be lying to her. Don't let her drag it on, just be sensitive. And don't start going out with this kid next week, wait til she gets over it.
2007-11-15 18:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth. If i was R and i found out that you were keeping secrets from me than I'd be more upset about that than have A not like me. You should also try to soothe her by telling her not to rush into things for there are plenty of guys out there, and that the right one will come along when she's good and ready. She shouldn't be discouraged if this one particular guy doesn't like her, because it's his lose. hope that helps.
2007-11-15 18:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Billa Bong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that R can't like him too much if she has a crush on another boy at the same time. Don't tell her that the idea of liking her disgusts A, that would break her heart, and she would lose any repect she had for him. I'd tell her a gentle version of the truth: he just doesn't like her that way.
2007-11-15 18:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I think you should tell her exactly what happened. Wait until she's calmed down a whil..couple days or a week maybe longer until you tell her he might like you. Point out there's that other guy, still. Encourage to keep an open mind about other guys, and don't let her get depressed.
2007-11-15 18:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say nah "A" has the hots for some chik from that other school
sorry dude, dont worry about it what about(other guy (not the one that she likes that doesnt like her))
a GUY that she has a chance with
it happens
shell be ok as long as she doesnt get teased about it :)
u b a good friend now and make her feel good about herself
2007-11-15 18:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by boris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont' have to be specific, just tell her he has interests in someone else. Don't say he said, "UGH." Be indirect and brief. Good luck. If you hook up with him though, expect to possibly lose her as a friend
2007-11-15 18:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel really bad for r..i think telling her the truth is the right thing to do but say it like this...
"r" i talked to "a" and well he dint say muchbut,its not going to work out ...
something like that will help her take it better and its best for her if u even say he like someone from another school
2007-11-15 18:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i really dont know but i would just be like ........ well im sorry to tell u this but he really dont like u .. im so sorry..( and just to make her feel a little more better i would say i think yall make a good couple and he probably does like u but he pobably just wont admit it)but oh well im sorry if i wasnt any help peace
2007-11-15 18:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Abbey H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋