my roommate is so messy. she leaves dirty dishes all over, there are clothes everywhere, books are just flung across the room. it looks like an animal lives on her side of the room. its progressively getting worst. how do i tell her that she needs to keep it clean. i don't want to be harsh though.
2007-11-15 09:41:17 · 16 answers · asked by the ocho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just keep all of her things on her side and every time you find something of hers on your side, toss it back on hers
2007-11-15 09:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pick a day when you know she'll be out for a while and do a major overhaul cleaning. When she gets home, make it clear that your shared living space needs to stay that clean all the time. It will require hard work on your part, but it will be worth it when she gets your message. I did the same thing with a roommate of mine a few years ago, and during the rest of the time I lived with her, our apartment stayed clean all the time.
2016-05-23 07:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
take it from me
i have lived with 6 different people!
i am a bit of a neat freak, so when i lived with this one chik she was a GROT!!!
i mean she didnt work spend all day at home and didnt do sh:t but make a mess
i would get home from a 10hr day at work and clean ... i so got over it SO QUICK but i didnt want to say anything because yeah i didnt want to start a fight
what i did (it worked 4 me)
i got home and said "GODAM this place is a pig sty, and the last thing i want to do after a 10hr day is clean... god !!!"
she looked a little guilty but still didnt get off her ***
so i got changed in to the biggest dag clothes and said "ok we will take a room each, do u want the bathroom or kitchen??" She looked at me like i just asked her to give up her 1st born child!!!!
so i repeted myself again and she still didnt say anything
so i said "ok then all you crap thats around the house that shouldnt be there take it and put it in your room
I will clean the house! its only fair (scarcasum)
she felt so bad so she walked around the house and took all her crap and put it away
then everyday id get home from work and it was a mess she would apologise.
it sisnt get much better i hate to say
and i did talk to her about it everytime we had a wine and cheese night, we were WERE great mates now we dont talk
i ended up moving out!!!
it was unfair because well i didnt want to
but i am a better and happier person 4 it
:)
2007-11-15 09:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by boris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. You have to repectfully and tactfully put your foot down. It wont ever sink in unfortunately, and you have to retell them often, but confront her, tell her how you feel, and that you are tired of living in filth and picking up after her. Throw in something along the lines of she never has to deal with your mess, and its very selfish that she forces you to live in that situation. It really sucks though cause its just a matter of being lazy. My roommate will cook, and eat, then leave everything in the sink....for days...maybe weeks. We have garbage service where all you have to do is set it outside your door, im never home at the time you have to set it out cause of work....he just lets the trash pile up. Oh yeah, and he has 2 cats that I have to tell him regularly to clean up after them cause they stink so bad. The best you can really hope for is brief times after you say something when they really try to do things different.
2007-11-15 09:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you can do is tell her up straight.
Another thing you can do is drop clues here and there. Like if you two ever go out to eat lunch together, you can have a friend come along and plan something with her. You can order only like a salad and tell your other friend to say "wow you don't eat alot like some other people do these days". But don't have your friend say that while looking at your roomate. That would seem rude. And she will get the idea. BYE!!
2007-11-15 09:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you feel uncomfortable with her messy nature. The best way to go about this is to be honest. I don't mean get on her face and tell her, "You're a pig, clean your mess up!'. Take the gentle, yet direct approach.
2007-11-15 09:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you have been looking around lately and that your room looks a little messy and that you both need to do some cleaning (don't single her out she will get offended or defensive) have you both promise to clean up a little more so there is less stress
2007-11-15 09:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by makeyourselfsick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that she should clean up you the room or ask her if she wants to. Don't tell her that shes a pig or else she'll get mad and you'll end up with nothing
2007-11-15 09:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by -violet- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you can understand it's hard to be neat but when you are sharing a space you have to be neat to keep things organized and to have enough space for everyones things ask her to respect the space you also have to live in.
2007-11-15 09:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that u heard from ur mom that there were some dogs near ur home that kept its clothes on the floor and its books beside the garbage...... so she will understand MAY BE!!!!! ^_^
2007-11-15 09:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. you are going to look like the bad cop no matter how you say it. try getting a new roommate next semester lol?
2007-11-15 09:50:06 · answer #11 · answered by Ben S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋