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Question

OK so this guy that I have as a friend with benefits deal going on with did something I don't understand. We both agreed that I would come over to his place and do what we do. After that happened I was supose to leave because both of us had stuff to do. Well we did our thing and I got dressed and was getting ready to leave and all of a sudden he wants me to stay and talk. So i stay and hang out for probably 45 min. and then I was like I better go. So I get in my car leave and get a text message from him saying " I got this wierd vibe when you left... I don't want it to be ackward." SO i call him back, no answer so i leave a message and said I was tired and on meds and we both agreed to me leaving. what is this guy thinking or what did he mean by doing this? I like clear communication I thought we were clear with each other on this. Just a background we have been friends for 2 years and 5 months ago it started to develope in to friends with benefits

sorry it is an essay ... why did he want me to stay after we agreed to me leaving and why did he think I was being wierd by leaving?

Answer 1

Depending on what you want, I'd say you should be cautiously optimistic.

The big conflict between men & women is that women are generally seeking a 'relationship' (someone who will help support them if they get pregnant) while men are usually just seeking sex.

Now most men eventually move past their playboy phase and start thinking of women as human beings instead of sex toys.

Wanting to 'talk' to you after sex is a sign of this. The ackwardness is probably his. Women are used to genuinly caring about their sex partner. For men this can be a truely strange awakening.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Well it is hard to read his mind, but it seems like he might have thinking he wanted more all over again and liked your relationship that he really did not want you to leave. i am though not sure why he did not answer the phone when you called back, but it i can only think he might have been in the bathroom when you called. Either that he was on the phone with someone else when you called. It is again hard to say without asking him directly.

randy

Answer 3

He might be becoming a little "clingy", ask him to tell you how he feels and to be honest about it. If you are in a "friends with benefits" situation, there should be no problem with being friendly once you guys are done with the benefits, and both of you should be open and honest with each other as friends are supposed to be.

Answer 4

He's pregnant! j/k!! FWB usually only lasts just so long. Generally it's the woman who develops "feelings" but in this case, sounds like he'd like "more". Frankly, I'd love for a woman to come over for a booty call...especially if she's on meds!!!

Answer 5

I dont like reading whole essays, leave only the important details next time. His message is exactly what it says, there is no hidden meaning.

Answer 6

i think that he probably missed you when you left and didn't want you to go.

he could also have felt wired about the whole thing and didn't know how to tell you so maybe you should just ask whats wrong when you see him next

Answer 7

it's clear he feels weird for what he did, in short he just needs a little time off and when you see him don't mention what happened just be like "hey you whats up" act as if it never happened and you should be all better

Answer 8

Maybe he likes you as something more than a benefit - whether or not he has words to say it, or even knows it himself.

Answer 9

because for him it seems the sex has turned into an emotional bond, its time for you to break his heart, do it quick and no more sex with him.

Answer 10

drop him while u can, he is wanting control