my daughter is 8 months and she is attached to me (her mother) she wont stay with anyone for more than 15 mins if that she wont sleep in her own bed, she's slept with me since birth because she always threw fits when I put her in her crib or bassinet, I am getting ready to attend college and I dont know if it is possible with her, I cant even get her to go to bed unless I go to bed if someone could help that would be great!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-15 09:07:07 · 8 answers · asked by nla4ever 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
None of my boys ever laid in bed with me, I was too afraid I'd roll over and smother one of them. But the problem I had was when I moved them from the crib to a normal bed.
It's new and it takes time for them to adjust, just make sure you keep a routine, starting about 45 minutes beforehand to wind down, that's the time to give her a bath, stores carry the soothing aromatherapy bath blends.
Read her a story and tuck her in, tell her goodnight and walk out of the room, it may take some time and you may have to peek in on her a few times, just to make sure she's not hurting herself or trying to get out of the crib, but it pays off as the nights go by.
2007-11-15 09:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do it - my first daughter was the same way and it drove me nuts when I tried to go back to work.
Just be persistent. Get a routine down at bedtime and make sure you avoid giving her any sugar right before bedtime. Perhaps do something like, eating, bath time, cuddle time with a book, then bed time.
Also you might want to try those nighttime baby washes and/or lotions from johnson & johnson, as they have been shown to help encourage sleep (mild aromatherapy). Keep dim lighting around bedtime, and spend some time cuddling, but once you put her in her bed, that is it. If you break down and give in and lay with her, she's going to learn your weak spots. It will probably take a few nights, maybe even a week or two for her to adjust, and a lot of tears, but she'll eventually get it and you'll thank yourself later.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 17:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an attached baby. That's a good thing!
Babies are biologically programmed to want to be close to their mothers. To her, your presence means safety, and your absence is deeply frightening.
If you need to transition her to a caregiver so you can attend school, start by leaving her with the caregiver for very short periods. Make sure the caregiver is someone who will hold and soothe your baby to sleep rather than plunking her in a crib to 'cry it out'. If you can, put her in a sling and take her to class with you.
Attached babies are more work in the beginning, but it's worth it.
2007-11-15 17:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by daa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the EXACT same thing, she will only sleep in my bed. Some how she just knows as soon as I lay her down in her bed. I even had to hold off on school because she refuses a bottle, even with breast milk. I gave in and let her win, she's only going to be young for a little bit. When she's a teenager I'll probably be the one crying for her attention.
2007-11-15 20:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by BugsNSofie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months is when babies get "separation anxiety" and they would rather be with the person(s) they know already.
my 4.5yrs old was the same at the time but after a while, a lot of gentle persuation and a lot of nice experiences with other people he got over it.
it takes a lot of work and you will need help - if you are the key person she knows she will have a harder time getting a little more independent.
frustrating as it may be now, enjoy it! I so miss the days we had our baby in bed with us (we now have a 8months old who will not sleep in our bed because we insisted that he was going to be in his cot from birth - I miss it!)
good luck
2007-11-15 17:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by oblyo707 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first, my daughter did that and I though it was so cute that she wanted to sleep with me, but she is 6 now and still crawls in bed with me in the middle of the night. I continue to try to be persistant but it doesnt work. I wish I had put my foot down when she was younger and I didnt start out trying to do it when she is older. I now have a 6 month old and I told myself he would sleep in his bed and he does. I put him in bed and tell him goodnight, sometimes he cries, but not often. I know that it is best for him and me (my sanity and sleep). I know it might be hard at first, but I wish I could rewind the clock and do it differently with my daughter. You still have time.
2007-11-15 17:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put her down, give her to other people, and let her get over it. You've taught her that indeed her fears of being separate from you results in her being in danger, and theyre well founded. She cries you pick her up, thats what you have taught her.
Unteach her. Give her to other people, pat her head and tell her she's fine. Leave for short periods of time and come back when she's done crying. Go on like normal, dont fuss over her like it was bad and terrible that you were apart.
Put her in her crib and let her cry herself to sleep.
This sort of thing is rediculous, honestly, she cant develop properly if she cant survive outside your arms for any length of time. Its not healthy for her.
2007-11-15 17:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
collage...hmmm. whats more important?
your baby?
or collage?
u have to decide this first.
2007-11-15 17:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mily T 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋