your 2 best friends don't like each other and they don''t talk to each other
2007-11-15 08:45:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is not much you can do ( I have the same situation with my sister and my best friend). But to make things less stressful, just let both of them know that even though they are not friends you are still going to be friends with both of them. ( it's allot harder when you have to keep secrets) And make sure you spend an equal amount of time with each of them so there isn't a problem with jealousy issues. good luck
2007-11-15 08:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Star City Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you mean they were friends also but not anymore of if they are just two of your best friends that don't know each other and apparently don't like each other as well, but let's see...
From my own experience, I have learned that just because you are friends with someone doesn't always mean that your other friends will get along with them as well. I have three different groups of friends- One is a group of guys who like to airsoft, play video games, blah blah blah, the other is a group of fashionable, confident, strong personalitied gays/lesbians, and then another group of friends that are kind of your typical suburban gossipy, high schoolish people. Those are three very different types of people there. How I solve this problem is by spending time with each group/person/whatever separately.
2007-11-15 16:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by CandyPop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough spot to be in, but there are things you can do to preserve your relationship with each of them, and your own sanity as well. Consider setting these boundaries for yourself and them:
* Avoid creating situations which would bring the two of them together. However, see the third * below.
* Express your regret that they don't enjoy being around each other because you like them both very much. BUT if a situation arises where you are being drawn into the middle, gently, clearly and firmly tell each one of them that you will not allow yourself to be forced to "pick sides," that you hope they don't ask or expect you to do that, and that you will not participate in any conversation in which one of them speaks ill of the other.
* Avoid carrying messages back and forth between them. If you are asked to do this, tell them that this is a good opportunity for the two of them to talk directly to each other. If one of them indicates a willingness to do it, in this instance you can offer to help bring them together.
* Cultivate your own relationships with them as much as you can, but be prepared to sever the ties if either one violates what you have respectfully asked them not to do.
I hope this is helpful.
2007-11-15 17:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by JMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do all that you can to mediate. If you can come to the root of the problem and attack it, do so. Maybe one said or did something to the other that simply can't be forgiven. If a common ground can't be achieved, at least let them both know that they are both friends of yours, and you won't sit around listening to them badmouth eachother. Good luck with this one. Been there done that.
2007-11-15 16:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by chuckachoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
You should invite them both for lunch or something and try to get them to know and like each other.Other solution is hanging with each friend separately and try to smooth situation
2007-11-15 16:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by snowball 74 2474 ssbbcc91397cats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they are both friends with you, that dosent mean they have to be friends with eachother. Just talk to each one and tell them that you are not willing to decide between them and that you would be happy to share your time with both of them because you care about them both. If one of them tells you that you need to pick or choose between them... then that person is not a real friend to you. Good luck.
2007-11-15 16:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make time for each one cause .eachone has something that makes yall happy thats why they are ur best friends dobt do more with one and and not the other then they will fill behind and not so much ur friend
2007-11-15 16:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by purple eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to fing out what both of them like and if they like somthing common just take both of them some where and don't tell one of them that the other one is coming and don't tell the other one that the person is coming
2007-11-15 16:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Janet B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't spend the day with both of them at the same time. Or find common interests so you can do something they both love to do, and tell them to behave, for you.
2007-11-15 16:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Fully Aware 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing really u can do. just simply tell them both not to put U in the middle of their drama.
2007-11-15 16:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lils 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋