I've liked her for a very long time now, but recently I've decided to tell her how I feel. I think she feels the same... I'm not a shy person, but she's my best friend and I don't want to make things awkward if it's unrequited.
But I want to go for it. Any words of encouragement/advice? I don't want to chicken out.
2007-11-15 08:32:20 · 15 answers · asked by [192882] 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be confident life is too short not to go after what you want. If she says yes you will be the happiest, if she says no you wont have to worry any longer and you can move on. Try to look at the positive in everything.
2007-11-15 08:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Deep breaths and think to yourself, I can do this, I can do this, like a mantra for awhile. Clear your head, then when the time is right approach the subject smile and say what you need to directly to her. I suggest you do it in a manner that leaves her an out if she doesn't feel the same. That's the hard part. Don't kiss her on anything, just talk. Be direct but sft about it. Best of luck with it.
Oh, and HUG.
2007-11-15 09:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the "drunk" thing. Be honest. After all, if you fell in love with her it's because of who you truly believe that she is. She deserves the same sort of respect. True, it might not work out the way you hoped, but what if you try deception or white lies and it succeeds? That's even worse because now you've based a beautiful thing on a fallacy.
Besides, if she's really your best friend it will all work out in the end anyway. Whatever her answer is.
2007-11-15 08:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dominus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woot! Ok, barge in on her while she's in the shower. No, kidding.
Alright, look, she likes you dear. How could she not?! You're pretty great if you ask me. Plus she's been doing all the hinting lately and bottom line is, you're going to kick yourself if she goes off to college and you never got the balls to give it a shot.
So, I tell you what; you wanted Friday to be the deadline, eh? Here's an ultimatum: you tell her by Friday or I'm going to make up something so incredibly embarrassing about you and spread it all over Y!A. Something about gerbils...or scat or something. So get to it!
2007-11-15 10:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Legs 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are going through the same thing as many of us have already. We all have advice saying go for it. You really should, because if you do not, you will forever say 'what if' to yourself. Now I would sit her down and have a heart to heart with her, but prob tell her that i have feelings for her... not just rush into 'Hi I am your new stalker' lol. Honestly though, just go for it. have faith in yourself. and if it does work, awesome. but if it does not work out, dont forget that there are others out there that will love you for who you are... for what you believe in... for what you care about... for everything about you... if it is not her then your future will walk into you life soon... just have faith in yourself and your future.
Take care and good luck
2007-11-15 09:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by JON B the EMT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it--tell her how you feel.
She may not give you the answer that you want (or she may), but at least you tried. You don't want to look back and say that you wished you had at least given it a shot. Life's too short to pine away on unrequited love that you don't even really know is unrequited.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 08:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, didn't notice the [THE STALKER] being added to your name! ;)
Go for it! Listen to your instincts! What-could-have-been's are really frustrating and sad... So if you feel that it's the right time to let her know what you have for her, then it's the right time. And I do hope you get the response from her that you'd want. The best of luck, Marlene! ;)
2007-11-15 08:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by J. McCoy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it gurl! You only live once! And once you're my age you miss the innocence of youth. Do it, because putting things off means cutting another moment from your life that could've been spent with that person.
2007-11-15 08:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that the emotion is mutual hell go for it. You only live once, and what kind of life would it be without chances. Without love lmao. Love is one big chance, and in my opinion its a chance worth taking over and over again, rather than never knowing at all..........Smiles
2007-11-15 08:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by W S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go gently honey, but definitely go for it. No drama, no kissing, just quietly tell her how you feel. Let her know you respect however she feels and you cherish your friendship and don't want to lose it.
Trust me... living with "what if" sucks.
Good luck baby grrl.....hugs!
2007-11-15 09:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋