2007-11-15 08:16:47 · 57 answers · asked by Roslyn M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You are too young to be getting married. Why do you want to marry him? Is it because you all have a child together? That's not the right reason to marry.
2007-11-15 08:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by justaskin 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You need some councelling first of all. You shouldn't be thinking of marriage right now just because you're pregnant. Lots of people have babies without getting married so just wait until you are ready, things will look different after the baby is born. Don't get married just because you are pregnant. Please go talk to a school councellor or ask a responsible grown up to help you find someone to talk this through with. You are too young to do this on your own! There are people who can help you. Go to a health clinic, school councellor, doctor, minister, nurse, crisis centre, family planning centre, just look and you will find help. Don't do this on your own please! And don't listen to all the stupid answers on here, most posted by kids who don't give the best advice. I'm a 40 year old mother who has been through this myself and looking back now I wish I would have gotten some help at the time. There are other options out there, if you're not ready to be a mother and I'm not talking about abortion. Get some help now!!!
2007-11-15 08:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in the best interest of your child to get married to its' (I don't know what gender the baby is) father. And your marriage CAN work. I have a friend whose mom (Let's call her Judy) got married when she was 15. She then was pregnant at 17 (still married to the guy, might I add) and continued with high school. With this baby (and 3 more future children) and this husband, whom she wed when she was 15, she was able to make it through high school and college and get a good job. To this day, "Judy" is still married to the same man and has 4 children.
2007-11-15 08:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Squeegee Beckingheim :-) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll need parents permission. Quite honestly, you also need to be ready for marriage. Love isn't what holds a marriage together. Before you get married, I'd suggest some SERIOUS premarital counseling. Right now the odds are stacked against your marriage lasting 5 years. Had you asked about sex,pregnancy and marriage before you got married, I'd have told you to finish school, go to college, get a degree, and THEN think about marriage. Babies should come after marriage. Babies are an enormous responsibility on adults, and even more enormous on teens. Teens aren't able to support a baby. If you are pregnant, haven't had it yet, I'd suggest adopting it out to a nice couple who is able to give the baby everything it needs.
2007-11-15 08:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.I dont feel so alone now.Im also 16 and i completely understand wanting o get married.But to be honest with you,i dont believe its the best thing to do.Guys change rapidly.Sadly ive learned that.also U are underage and need parent permision.I recommend waiting till u are 19 and stay with this guy(if u want and u seem like u do).Only because u are young and it will be hard to support a family without ur parents.I can say that if i had my baby,and felt as weboth do right now(about marriage)then i personally would wait and try and earn money for later use.And finish my schooling
2007-11-15 10:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT get married; not only are you too young, but school needs to be the #2 priority after your baby. If you get married now, the statistics are against you. Not only are you less likely to stay in school, bur you are highly likely to live in poverty for the rest of your life.
Consider, too, that over 50% of marriages between ADULTS end in divorce, and over 95% of marriages before the age of 20 do, too.
You are also setting yourself up if you marry the guy, as young teenagers not only don't understand the consequences of their actions (you both had sex and got pregnant, for an example), they change relationships about every 3-4 months. All of you would be miserable.
Do your baby a favor; make sure her mom gets an education so she won't be flipping burgers the rest of her life.
2007-11-15 08:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow ur so young! You're still a baby and you want to get married to your baby's father. How old is he? It really doesn't matter how old he is cuz I think your trying to grow up to fast. If you really love him and he really loves you, then good luck to you. Personally I would wait. I am 21 now and married. I got married at 19. I think you should too. At least wait until ur 18. Don't make any decision now. If you're in school, then finish and then you can decide if u still want to marry ur baby's father if he's still around.
2007-11-15 08:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by bostonterrierlover4ever1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well let's just say that it really seems like getting married at this point is the least of your concerns, stop being selfish and think about the baby rather than wasting money on a wedding. I understand that you want to get married, but you have a baby and money could be used for diapers........
You are 16, and it is abnormal for you to be wanting commitment at this age, not only that but how about High School, College ETC and having money for that AND a baby.
You really need to consider whats important before you get even more babies... and a wedding.
2007-11-15 08:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by yoda2088 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First that you have to do is to look beyond the surface. Think of the future. Not all that work is guided by what we feel. sOMETIMES WE NEED TO DISREGARD WHAT WE FEEL FOR the betterment of our lives.
As i mentioned, weigh down the pros and cons of your possible decision. If you think the marriage will do better for you, for him and for your baby, then go for it. If you think this feeling and wanting is only cause by the circumstances, then go against it and build your future, girl. This is a modern world.
If you are talking about love, then be it love. But you have to consider that love is coming from two directions....from him and from you towards each other. If you truly love each other, then i am sure you can surpass all the challenges that you both face until the right moment for the marriage. But then again if you think the right moment is now, then best wishes.
Have peace of mind and be happy. ( -^-)
2007-11-15 08:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rouge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking about. You are way too young. Live your life for a while and yes, you can still do that with a baby. I was a young mother of 3 and I still lived my life when they were young. You really do not want to get married as no doubt, both of you will change and it's a huge responsibility. Maybe talking to your family to see what they think and go from there. Does he want to get married and you didn't say his age.
2007-11-15 08:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you think your child really needs a father, go for it. But if your child is okay without one, do not worry about it. After all, getting married at age 16 is a little young, but do what is best for you.
2007-11-15 08:21:12 · answer #11 · answered by Pets are the best! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋