im really confused....anger, anxiety, cutter....addiction?

Question

i always hold my emotions in and never show anything of what im feeling. well it builds up and shows as anxiety. REALLY BAD ANXIETY!! umm im just really confused about everything. i was wrestling/playing with our dog last night so my arms got all cut up because we were playing too hard. but then i made it worse, by scratching it myself. so my counselor thinks im a cutter, but way deep down i know im not, even though i sort of admitted to cutting. and my stomach got cut because the dog jumped on me. so she made the assistant principal come in and i had to show them my stomach, which was very awkward.they just said lift up your shirt and that was it. im also addicted to caffeine. and sometimes i lash out so she thinks i have a anger problem too. she wants me to join a support group for the anger, and join this "be the change" club. im just so confused about everything. how to i deal/sort all this out? i would really appreciate some help.

i told her i didnt do it, but i know it wasnt that convincing, so i just gave in and went with it. and they are pretty bad scratches so that didnt help either. and thats when she had the assistant principal come in and i had to lift up my shirt to show them the scratch on my stomach. which was totally awkward, they're like its ok, its ok.

Answer 1

Oh...I don't think anyone should make of this a big problem. You know yourself better than the others so...just avoid situations that make you angry. Do things you like to do and are relaxing, maybe drink less coffee, replace it with milk or something healthier.
About showing your feelings, well...not everybody can show their feelings easily. I'd recommend to start showing your good feelings. Smile some more. :)
Plus being around family and friends is a great way to avoid anger. Practice some sport or at least walk some more...you know, to consume that energy that can be provided to anger otherwise. :)
Oh...and don't forget to pray! That's very important: tell God how you feel and ask for His help. He'll be there.

Answer 2

It's just anxiety. You don't have to be having an anxiety attack to have anxiety. ( : If there's something in your lungs it wouldn't be related to your heart. And I don't know if this is comforting or more scary, but girls and guys a lot of times don't have the same heart attack symptoms. You would know if you were having a heart attack and you'd feel a lot worse. I have anxiety and heart problems, but neither are related. But I'm on 0.5mg of Klonopin every night before I go to bed and it helps me. I've been on it two years and went down from constant anxiety and about 25 anxiety attacks a day to maybe a couple anxiety attacks a month and almost zero anxiety. Hypochondria is a really common symptom of anxiety, believe it or not. It's best to stop that before it starts. I used to be a horrible hypochondriac. But you just have to relax and think about it. If you think you have a disease..the simplest answer is usually the right one. Meaning if you think you have a brain tumor..it's probably stress headaches. Or if you think you're having a heart attack and they can hear things in your lungs..it's probably a chest cold. There is a very very small chance of you actually having a disease. Once you get your anxiety under control a lot of this will go away. Have you been checked for anxiety or been to a doctor for it? A small dose of anxiety medicine goes a long way. (:

Answer 3

Sounds like you need a constructive outlet for your energy. Look into local activities or possible hobbies.

It won't hurt to try the groups out. You will probably pick up some great pointers.

I used to be very anxious as well. Then my brother died. I realized that all those things I used to worry about just weren't that important. Think about the true importance of the things you get anxious about. I doubt any of them are really that important. Then release your energy through a hobby. I also write in a journal to let out the emotions.

Answer 4

You know you didn't do it !! Just tell yourself it's no big deal. & as for the caffine try to cut down 1/3 or 1/2 a cup everyday and enventually you'll be less of an addict =)
and for the anger mangegement- learn to control yourself inside.. it's all in the mind
my friend had it and what she'd do is: she'd join a sport & let out all her anger in the sport ( which you more willing to win) if she got really mad she'd go outside and run as fast as she could until she's run away far from whatever- i'd catch her alot of the time at a lake, throughing rocks in the water...

Answer 5

Ok well you gotta tell that your not a cutter and just played with ur dog cuz it will get alot worst. They will call ur parents and that will end very badly =/ So make sure you take care of that asap. Thats so funny when i was younger i would always wrestle my dog. He would bite me hella hard too lol. But i didnt care cuz it was fun. Anyway! You gotta stop lieing about who you are. Cuz people are really gonna think that and not wanna bearound with you, theyll think ur crazy. Just tell the teacher u dont have a angry problem, that you just had some caffine lol. Shell understand

Answer 6

I am single mum. I have been suffering for panic attacks for some 15 years now, though it was not until recently I understood what they were. They were progressively getting stronger and more frequent, stopping me from some days even leaving my house. I read this book and it all made perfect sense.

I am not saying I was not terrified of putting theory to action, I was more scared of that than the next attack! But I decided to view it as a game, one I had control of and could therefore not lose!

Answer 7

Just stop holding your anger in. (and I don't mean go crazy getting angry all over the place lol) We all need to decompress when emotion builds up - just talking and getting understanding (or writing). The secret to a happy life is self acceptance and balance. Always tell the truth.

Don't let yourself get worked up, use breathing to calm down and you can always walk away from conflict.
Take care

Answer 8

Its really easy to fall into other peoples conventions about yourself. Don't let anyone define you at this age.
The first thing you should do is not let things build up. Find other outlets for your feelings:
poetry
Music (learn guitar)
hiking
Keep your caffeine to maybe just one strong cup of coffee in the morning
Good luck and don't worry too much about this. Everyone has demons to reign in.

Answer 9

Listen i am having problems at home and hold my emotions in to. But the best thing to do is talk to your mom and dad fror example. If u leave a pot of boilin water out without the lid off it the steam will come out but if u hold the steam in with a lad on the pan it will blow out in one big thing that is whats happeneing to u. U are holding all your emotions in and its not helping talk to someone.

Answer 10

I think it's a good idea for you to join the group. It will give you an outlet and I'll bet you find others who have the same feeling as you. It will help you learn how to deal with these issues. Here's a website where you can also connect with others:

http://forums.walkers.org/

Good luck! :)