What is this sensitive man you ladies want so much?

Question

I thought sensitive meant, not being able to take a joke, or that is always serious.

Answer 1

"We don't always want what we want" just about sums it up. Forget about trying to be this or that - just be yourself. They will probably make you sleep on the sofa anyway, but at least it will be the real you sleeping on the sofa.

Answer 2

Ha! I love this question. You don't know what we want, because all people only want what they can't have, so we don't always want what we want.
But there's a balance- we want a strong man, but not an emotional ignoramus.
I'll give you a great example.
My man is twice my age, at 60. He was a happy hippy-dippy, so he has always been more affectionate and caring than your typical sexist pig of yore... still, there are things he came to our relationship not understanding.
One late night, he came home from business and insisted I tell him why I had a bad day. I explained my horribly rude co-worker, and the way I should have handled it better, and how hurt I can be. He ignored my feelings and criticized me, picking up where I left off! We fought, and then I tried again 2 nights later to explain that when a woman is upset, don't get logical. If there's no emergency, don't try to fix me. He STILL fought with me; that's not who he is and he can't do it.
The next morning, he was driving to another city, and he caught an AM talk show. The male DJ was explaining to the female DJ how men are, and how much better it would be if women would just get it and move on.
"I only get seven colors and black. Don't tell me 'maroon'."
"Friends are very important. How else do I get that keg of beer off my truck?"
"Don't cry to me if you don't want me to fix anything- go to your girlfriends for that."
And on and on.
And he was agreeing wholeheartedly, until he realized what an arrogant and hostile jerk this guy sounded like.
What a jerk he had been.
And we resolved the problem. When I'm upset or have a problem, he is not to solve it right away. Even if he doesn't really understand what exactly I feel, he needs to stop criticizing or making suggestions, because even that sounds liek criticism when I'm upset.
Later on, when I'm not emotional, I will be logical with him. I will give him that time to try to help, if I'm not dead set on handling the problem alone.
And, if he hasn't picked up on the fact that I'm upset because I'm not crying or yelling or swearing, I will simply tell him,
"I'm not ready for logic yet, OK?"
And that solves, 90% of the time, the age-old dilemma of how a man responds when a woman is upset.
It doesn't mean he's female. It just means he knows how to deal with a person who doesn't feel or react the way he does.

Answer 3

What Jenesuis is describing is a selfish man - not a sensitive man...there's a huge difference (in fact they may be direct opposites)!

What we really want is a man who is okay with the fact that sometimes women cry...And a man who is comfortable enough with himself that he will allow himself to cry when something sad happens (I'm not talking about watching chick flicks - I'm talking about a death in the family kind of thing).

We want a man who is okay being a man, and letting us be women...Who can understand that men & women are different, but that we all have value as individuals.

We want a man who is willing to support us in reaching our goals, even if he doesn't agree with where we think we want to go.

We want a man who gets the simple concept that housework doesn't get done on its own, and who is willing to help get this done so that we can enjoy more time together as a couple or as a family.

We want a man who is interested in helping to raise his own children, and knows that they need a good male role model in their lives.

We want a man who loves us for who we are, not what we look like.

There are a lot of other factors, and each woman has her own picture of the ideal man...But I think these are some of the basics that each human should be looking for in a partner.

Answer 4

There are different levels of sensitivity. There's normal sensitivity and then there are extremes. Normal sensitivity just means that a person has compassion for others.

Answer 5

My boyfriend is sensitive and masculine - you can be both. The sensitivity is being considerate and listening in a concerned manner. Its not being whiny or wimpy. It means being sensitive to a woman's needs.

Answer 6

Sensitive does mean that - I met a sensitive guy this year and was really put off - all he thought about were his own feelings, no-one else's mattered to him. Needless to say, I haven't seen him since.

Answer 7

Well for me I dont want a women in a mans body. I mean I dont want him to understand the sisterhood of the traveling pants or anything...lol! Although I do like a man who has compassion.

Answer 8

Sensitive [at least to me] is more like being considerate of other peoples' emotions.. not lacking a sense of humor.

Answer 9

Sensitive, yes...but not to the point of wimpiness.
Just listen when she is sad, and tell her you feel bad for her.
That is sensitive.

Answer 10

Sensitive men suck. If I wanted a sensitive man, I'd be a lesbian.