Gay Adoption? Do you think two men can provide on behalf of father and mother?

Question

What happened to a "loving mother", now, i don't have any problems with gays or against them having rights between them and what they want to do. But I have to say, I strongly believe in a Mother and Father as roles of a parent, I believe a child needs a strong female role model as well as a male role model, I mean what about a mother's love, a warm comforting mother and a father, two different significant roles both very important, what if a boy is adopted and he doesn't have a strong relationship with a female role for a long period in his life? In gay adoption, is one parent going to play the "mother"..I don't think so... no need for hate by the way, this is my view.

Of course i am not for single parents by the way...but you can't take a child away from a single parent if they already have one... I am also against single parents adopting

Answer 1

Well there are single fathers who raise children on their own (my father was one) and I had female role models such as older sisters, aunts, etc. I don't think it matters if there are two men, two women, a man and a woman, just a man or just a woman raising a child/children. If the child recieves love, education, manners etc, that is all they need. Two men don't need to have one play "the mother role" I feel the love and affection from a man is just as gentle and warming as the love of a woman. I think its a great idea that children who do not have any love or person/persons to care from them have kind hearted people to adopt them.

Answer 2

There are single father's raising their children out there, just like there are single mother's doing the same. Someones sexual orientation doesn't have anything to do with a single parent family home. It takes a village to raise a kid anyway; regardless if the child is being raised by a gay or straight couple, single parent, whatever.
Also, there is no role play. That comment about one of the men playing the mother was ignorant!

Being a good parent comes from within. A dog can have babies, that doesn't make it a mother.

**It sucks to be you, living in that box all alone, with those closed minded views and opinions you have. You're ideology needs some serious tweaking.

LOL...Did I hit a nerve? LMAO...I'm sure I'll get another email from you that won't get read...don't waste your time!

Answer 3

In all honestly, how many children are being raised these days in the "ideal" one mother and one father situation? Less than half.

While in an ideal world, every single child would have a loving mother and a loving father, that's simply not a possibility.

The key to the parenthood example you laid out is *loving.* A child needs two loving parents. If a couple, straight or gay, wants to bring a child into their home, why should we stop them? I'm not saying we let down the standards for adoption and allow anyone off the street to adopt, but provided both parents "check out" so to speak, why would be deny them the right to raise a child?

I know many single months and single fathers raising children. Are those children going to slip between the cracks of society because they're not growing up in a one mother, one father household?

Answer 4

I know some gay couple parents. And they are wonderful. A man can be just as loving and warm as a woman, and a woman can be just as firm and disciplined as a man.

What I find, is that both parents take on both roles. They are both very warm, loving, and comforting. But they are both serious about the house hold rules. I find that the children of my gay friends, are better behaved than those of my straight friends. Not only that, but they are more comfortable with their parents. They are more likely to talk to them when something is wrong.

Two gay men I know have a 14 year old daughter, who recently got her period. She had no problem talking to them about it. If they had a question she couldn't ask, they called grandmothers.

Comparatively, when my niece, with heterosexual parents, got her period, she felt uncomfortable and awkward, and we found out later on that she hadn't told them for 2 months because she was embarrassed.

Often in life, one parent plays both roles in a child's development. They are the mother, the father, the breadwinner, the affectionate one, and disciplinarian. They are all roles in one. And that's fine. That is what my own Mom was like, and my grandmother. You do not NEED both genders in your life. My friend never met his mother (at least that he remembers, she died when he was two). He turned out perfectly fine. My knew my dad, and I will always wish I did not because of the type of person he is.

Some times one will take on the "mom" roll, and the other the "dad" roll. It happens, because they are naturally that way. Some men effeminate, some masculine, and vice versa.

The children I knew from gay couples are wonderful. They are smart, they are well rounded, they are loved and adored, the older ones are all straight (do not know about the younger ones, obviously), they are open with their parents, they are not embarrassed, or ridiculed because their parents are gay. They are not called gay by classmates because their parents are gay. They love their parents, and would never want them to change. You do not need male and female roles, because in the end, we are all human. Nothing bad happens is a boy does not have a female figure, or if a girl does not have a male figure in their life. As long as the parents are loving, but firm, that is all that matters.

Answer 5

What kind of "roles" are people expected to fall into? If they don't meet these acceptance criteria do you classify them as bad parents? Are all mothers supposed to be comforting and soft and nurturing whereas fathers are the source of discipline and the bread winner? That's an extremely limited outlook. There are as many different kinds of parents as there are parents. No two are identical. Surely it's better that a child regards either parent as a human being on whom they can count for support and unconditional love?
As for whether a single parent or pair of same-sex parents aren't up to the job, here are plenty of man/woman couples who are lousy parents. When it comes down parenting, quality is more important than quantity and love is more important than gender.

Answer 6

I was raised by two heterosexual parents, a mom and a dad. Know what that was like? Dad beat us, got drunk all the time, and mom slept around and was never home. Maybe if I was brought up by two people who actually loved each other, and loved me, maybe I'd be a different kinda person today!!! Not that I don't love my parents, God rest their souls, but seriously, I don't think they ever wanted me. At least when Gay people adopt, the child is going to be wanted and loved. Just the way I see it, agree or disagree as you wish!!! Hope maybe I gave you a little insight though! :@)

Answer 7

Do you know how many children in this world who have a mother and a father but still have no role model. It doesn't matter what their gender is as long as the child is showered with their love. Some children are not lucky enough to have even one parent show them love. I totally agree with Anya!

Answer 8

A gay couple can love a child as much as any straight couple can....You believe a child needs a strong male and female role model? What about single parents?

Answer 9

But it's already been proven that two gay parents can raise children just as well as any single parent. It's old news.

Single parents can do a great job at raising kids too.

Plus, I know plenty of screwed up kids with a mom -and- a dad that might have been raised better if they had two gay parents. You can't judge simply by gender roles, ya know?

All you need is the necessary money and lots of love. No one "plays the mom/dad." They are parents, no one -needs- a mom and a dad figure in your life to turn out to be respectful citizens in society. It's silly to think so.

Answer 10

well... what do u think about single parents??? if a kid is raised by his mother alone, he wouldn't have a father figure either, or vice versa... in my opinion, it's not about who raises u, or the person who raised u's sexual orientation, but about what that person has 2 offer... what they teach u, the things u learn from them, the love and respect they give u, and you give them back.... of course, everybody takes their own paths, and decide what they wanna do.. if they wanna become a person who is respectful, caring, loves 2 be around others... or if they decide 2 be greedy, selfish, thieves, criminal.... however, if the person that raises u shows u how much that person loves u, and teaches u about the right and wrong things every since u r a kid... and guides u thru the right paths... it's very unlikely the kid will turn out 2 be a criminal... so in my opinion, if the parent(s) teach their kids good manners, they'll grow up 2 be people of good hearts... it doesn't matter if their parents are gay, heterosexual, or raised by a single parent... it's all about what they learn in their youth as they are growing up... after all... not every1 is a good parent..