What is wrong with kids today?

Question

I have a 11 year old. He's very smart, but doesn't seem to care how he treats people. He gets in trouble at school and at home. He just does whatever he wants to. I know when I was that age, I wouldn't have dared to defy an elder, but now days it seems like it happens all the time. What do you think has changed so much since the late 80's or early 90's? How do we treat the kids who treat others like crap?

Answer 1

they way kids are treated now is way different than back then

Answer 2

I would look in the mirror. Obviously you have dropped the ball somewhere along the line. Everyone says "what's wrong with kids today?" Nobody says "How can we help kids today?" You are the parent and you should be able to control your 11 year old son. It's not what's wrong with kids these days it's what's wrong with parents today?

If you have ever noticed about three generations ago the child would be forced to go out and find a "switch" to be hit with [I'm not saying this is a good thing, it's just the way it was] then the next generation were spanked with hands. Then our parents decided that spanking was not a good thing. Not all parents of course, I mean society in general. So now if we spank our children we are abusing them. You will notice that kids three generations ago were much more respectful and did a lot more work in the home and on farms. Kids today don't have issues like that, they are becoming spoiled and it's our fault. We as parents need to buckle down and do what we say and say what we'll do.

Answer 3

the majority of kids act out for a reason and no offense but sometimes the parents need to take a look at themselves. But when i was younger i was defient and didnt like to be told what to do. That's just my personality but im sure if my parents were more strick earlier with me i would of kept my mouth shut a lot more. The problem is now a days parents want to be either drill seargents or they want to be the kids best friend and neither of those work. If you do both the child gets confused and doesnt know how to act. You need to discipline your child, be understanding but draw lines somewhere. Maybe you should try listening to your son and giving him time to open up to you. Maybe theres more going on with him than you think. good luck~

Answer 4

Unfortunately, we live in a "Your Special/Coddling" society now-a-days. Instead of physical or firm punishment (spanking) of a disobedient 2 yr old, I see parents trying to "reason" with them. Young children and adolescents don't need friends they need PARENTS! They need consistent reactions for every bad actions. They need boundaries! Alot of this disrespect of their elders is because their elders aren't laying the law down and standing by it. I always gave my elders the up most respect, but the one time I tried talking back I had my mouth smacked off my face (never tried it again, though). Now-a-days I see children barking demands at their parents and the parents doing absolutely nothing! Where's the punishment? This needs to be instilled while they are still young otherwise there will be big issues down the road.

Answer 5

I dont mean to sound rude and this answer does'nt go
for us all, but alot of adults have the influence on kids these
days, I was at Wendys the other day and there was two mothers and there sons and the sons about 8yrs were acting
like they had A mental disability like making sounds and moving there hands like they were crippled and the mothers
were laughing at this. It's up to us to set examples for the
younger one's and we all can play apart in this.

Answer 6

a lot has to do with parents do not get to spend adequate time with their children. also, most parents do not teach a lot of the behavior and responsibility things to their children nowadays that they should. they take it for granted that the child knows better or will learn how to act in school. the child interprets this as the parents do not care so why should they.
children need teaching by example, lead and plain old fashioned talks. if then they disobey they need disiplined--every time it happens. do not say if you do that again youre in trouble. they will beleive they can get away with it--and most do.

Answer 7

Kids treat people the way they are taught to treat people, through home and school. If you don't like his behavior, don't tolerate it. Punish him for being a little brat! If you do nothing about it, you are saying it's ok by not saying anything. Step it up there, you are the parent!

Answer 8

One thing that has changed since the 80's is the way parents are raising their kids....they aren't.

They aren't teaching their kids manners or to be respectful to others.

Parents aren't teaching their children responsibility be having them to help out around the house or at least in their own bedrooms.

Parents aren't teaching their children how to earn things....they simply buy whatever the kid wants.

Parents have stopped telling the children what to do and now the children tell the parents what to do.

There is no discipline for unacceptable behavior anymore and parents are afraid to spank their children for fear of the child taking them to court. KNow what? If my child threatened to take me to court, I'd tell him/her that I will give up my parental rights to the state of KY and he/she can go live in an orphanage and take only the clothes on his/her back since I paid for everything he/she has and enjoys!

Some parents use the excuse that they both have to work and just don't have time for their kids. Bull-hocky!

Some parents think that by the time their kid is 8 or 9, he or she has everything needed to make good decisions and think on their own without adult supervision. Baloney!

I'll tell you how to treat a child who treats others like crap....take away everything that child has and make them earn things back one by one. The child must exhibit acceptable behavior when interacting with others and you need to be in contact with his teachers to be sure he is following through at school, too. One slip up and it's back to square one....take away everything that child has. And I'm talking about the fun stuff a kid has...TV, DVD player, iPod, radio, CD's, Dvd's, gaming systems, computer, driver's license, phone privileges, cell phone, etc.

You've made some errors in how you chose to raise your son thus far or he wouldn't be exhibiting rude behavior, but it isn't too late to set him straight.

Answer 9

Hi,
You may not like or agree with this answer, but the truth hurts, so here goes. Once prayer and respect for adults was removed from our school systems the problems started to pop up all over the country. And yes, there are statistics supporting that fact. Also, there are more women in the work force which means there are many kids that go unsupervised after school is out for the day. Some people may call it progress, but I say it's just progression into the break up of the family. Your child is just practicing what he is learning, and unfortunately you now have the job to reel him in before he gets totally away. No pun intended here.

Answer 10

I think it's so funny that each generation says this about the next generation. Culture changes, parenting techniques change, the media changes, etc. But really, "kids today" aren't much worse than those of generations previous. They just misbehave in different ways.

Answer 11

Because he is allowed to get away with it. Make him volunteer at a soup kitchen, take away privileges, TV, computer, video games. Consistent punishment for bed behavior. They know what to expect. If you let him get away with being mean to someone and another time he gets in trouble it sends mixed messages.