I want to move my son from teacher?

Question

ok so my son has been having problems with her math teacher he is in 7th grade and it seems the teacher had been putting him on the spot and when my son asks her a question she always seems to ignore him . my son is in choir and it is the only class he is failing so h wont be able to sing anymore .we already spoke to the principal about it and the teacher but i sometimes thin that its more like a personal problem with him
theres like 3 other math teachers i think maybe her teaching method is not helping and i want to change him to another math techer .has anyone gone thru this problem before where the child doesnt feel comfortable anymore with the teacher ? if so what can we do

Answer 1

You cannot let this be an issue. You're the one paying for the child's school fees, and it's up to the school to suit your needs. You need to explain to the teacher you are unsatisfied and feel he would benefit from an alternative teaching method. Don't take no for an answer - the customer's always right.

Answer 2

You have to decide which route you want to take. He can benefit from or be harmed by either decision. As a school counselor in middle school I know that just because a parent complains, a child can't be moved to another class, otherwise every parent would be at the school when their child has a disagreement with the teacher. Many times, it's the principal's policy not to move students during the school year. I have been at 3 middle school's and 2 of the 3 would not move a student because of a student/teacher conflict unless the teacher was found to be at fault.

Your son will have to learn to deal with unpleasant teachers/bosses eventually or he will be a job hopper who leaves the position when the going gets tough and will spend more time in college dropping and adding classes than he actually will in class.

If your son's school has a guidance department go see the guidance counselor. This is a common thing that we deal with as counselors with all ages of children. The counselor can help give your son strategies to work through this. The counselor can also help you deal which this teacher and your son.

Unless this is a situation where your son is being abused (and from your question, he is not), I would tell you not to switch teachers. School is about more than math, english and science. Our kids are also learning life lessons that will affect the type of adult they turn in to & I for one want responsible adults paying into my Social Security fund. :-)

It's hard, but you and your son will work through this.
Best of luck!

Answer 3

Have you been able to determine what the exact cause of the personality conflict between the teacher and your son? Is it that your son is having trouble with math in general, and is taking it out on your son? Or, do other students have problems with this particular teacher? If you can't get the appropriate response from the teacher, you might want to consider going higher. I assume this is a public school? If so, contact the school system superintendent.

Answer 4

Sit in on some classes (unobtrusive, in the very back) and try and ascertain where the difficulty is. You have to do this for several classes though or everyone will be "acting" because they are not used to you being there. After a while they will get comfortable and you can begin to build a perspective. If there are other math teachers in the school see about moving your kid over to one of them. If it's academic you could get your kid a tutor. If the teacher is truly the problem you have the potential to gather evidence of it. Be proactive so you can rescue the rest of his school year. Good luck.

Answer 5

When i was in high school, i had an English teacher that i constantly clashed with and my grade reflected it. i complained to my mom and she went to the school and talked to my counselor and i was changed that very day. In my new teachers class i excelled. Maybe you should talk to the principal again letting him know that your child is feeling very uncomfortable with the teacher. Might even want to try the school counselor. If that doesn't work, you can always go above the principal.

Answer 6

Personally, if she's the only teacher he has issues with, go ahead. But first I'd confront her and ask her if she has a problem with your son. This way you let her know that you're aware of the problem and teach your son that you're attempting to resolve the problem before taking a drastic measure. If this doesn't solve the problem, take him out but make sure the principal is aware why. I've had teachers who had issues with my kids. Last year my son was so mortified, he had anxiety attacks before school. School is hard enough, kids shouldn't have to go through that!

Answer 7

Just like a child can become attached to a person they can also lose all faith in a person. A child is the most complicated form of person alive.

If a child feels threatened by an individual they might just shut down whenever they are around that person. As a parent you have the right to request a new teacher at least once. If that doesn't work maybe the kid needs counseling.

Answer 8

I know you've already spoken to the teacher but you need to be more clear and stern with him the school system. Tell them you don't expect any special treatment, but you also know that different people learn in different ways, and not every teacher is a perfect match for every student. Tell them it is not personal, just that you are looking out for the best interest of your child, and as a school system, they should be too. Then insist that your child be changed into a different classroom that better suits his needs. (I am a teacher, and really, the teacher that your son has should be adapting to your son, but since he is not, then this situation will not get better unless you have him removed.) Remember, the reason they are there is to HELP kids learn, and if they aren't, then they aren't doing their job. You need to step in and demand it. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

as a parent, I'd want my kid out of a classroom where he didn't get along with the teacher. as a former teacher, I'd leave him there to learn how to deal with a difficult situation. you've done the right thing talking to the teacher and principal. the guidance counselor might be able to help, too. ask your son what he wants done.

Answer 10

Have you tried helping him with his math homework? "Puts him on the spot" you mean she continually is seeing if he is taking steps to improve in this area.

by continually asking him questions class, she figures he is either going to put in extra effort or is going to see if he can find the easy way out and find a new teacher....

I see that not only has he done he latter, but you are facilitating this as well.

I have a question, if you're boss is mean do you just give up and quit? Or do you have to work through it because your family needs money to survive? Why not instill this lesson in your son?