what would you do if you were pregnant with your 2nd child with your boyfriend...?

Question

but the guy you lost your virginity to wants to get back with you and you havent forgotten him yet. you still have feelings for him?

this is my friend's question this is not mine so please dont critisize me. i have my husband and am in a stable relationship.

Answer 1

seek counseling for your feelings and stop having babies

Answer 2

I would stop thinking about men and start thinking about my kids. Are you on birth control or were you trying to get pregnant? Because I think the first step is to get on birth control. Be more careful because as much of a blessing as these kids are, they’re innocent and are being brought into a potentially bad environment. You’re pregnant and worrying about what man you’ll be with at the end of your pregnancy. NOT a good start…..

Worry about you and your kids right now. Be independent and learn to take care of these kids on your own. You can’t help provide for your kids if your mind is elsewhere. These children are what’s most important and the MOST important factor is stability! They need to have their father in their lives frequently (if possible) and you two need to work together the best way possible. Keep their lives as normal as you can.

As for this man you lost your virginity to, are you implying that you love him or something? Losing virginity is nothing, it’s the feelings involved that are something. And I really think the last thing you should do is get involved with anyone else. Focus on that baby and your other child right now. Worry about the rest later…

Answer 3

I guess that all depends on how you feel about the father of the baby growing inside. No matter what you do, the children come first. If not there is a problem. Also just because you still think of the virginity guy doesn't mean squat. He has changed and so have you. Think about why you and him aren't still together anyway. There was a reason when you split with him.

Answer 4

First... yeah you need to stop popping out babies and get everything together for the babies you do have. Secondly... if your current bf is a good enough guy to have a child with... why are you considering going back with someone who obviously it did not work out with the first time around.

I think you need to reevaluate your priorities right now...

hint your kids should be at the top of that list!

Answer 5

I would seriously begin to wonder why I wasn't married and continuing to breed. If the guy that I lost my virginity to wanted to get back with me I would be hard pressed not to spit on him.

Answer 6

Start using birth control.

Answer 7

I would start to take birth control and look at my other child and just tell them how sorry I am for screwing up their life because I couldn't keep my legs closed and I'm not mature enough to keep my kids my number one priority...

Answer 8

I'd wonder how my ex was going to feel about raising someone else's kids or if he was even up to the challenge.

Answer 9

Oh boy... I wish people would grow up before they strat having babies...
You are about to have 2 kids - and you have a responsibility to them! Forget your little crush and grow up and take care of your family!

Answer 10

Choose the man who will marry you and be a father to your children.

Answer 11

I wouldn't have gotten involved with a second guy until my feelings were over for that first one. Secondly, why are you making babies with men you aren't married to?