I am 27 and my wife is 22. She has gone on a holiday to her parents house. She will be back after a month. Now, I am getting attracted towards other women. How do I control myself ?
2007-11-15 06:05:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the same problem my wife went to her country for about amonth to her parents house. I recomend what i did. Stay in constant touch calling textin emails what ever it takes. Also if you like sports play go out and play a sport or pick up on a hobby..,, it works keep your mind focused!!
2007-11-15 06:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by kevin l 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How do you stop yourself from committing murder to someone you absolutely hate?
YOU control it by simply controlling it. It is not "out" of your control, and if you allow anything to happen, it is not something else possessing you, it is YOU.
As well, why would you ruin your life, your marraige, your wife, friends and family's respect, all for an immature craving.
Why your wife is away for a month is another subject that brings huge red flags in the first place. That is completely unhealthy for any spouse to be away for such a long period of time. It is called "separation" and this is a signal that your marriage has already been in trouble before she left for this time period.
I would highly suggest re-evaluating what is going on in your relationship and do whatever it takes to repair and patch up your marriage. In almost every case, it is not simply wanting to see family or take a "small break from life" when a spouse leaves for more than ONE night.
Get counseling for the both of you soon, and make it work!
2007-11-15 14:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
okay, if she's only gone a month...then you know she'll be back, when she comes home would you want to tell her...honey, while you were gone, I slept with half the women in town?? NO, so just stay as far away from temptation as you can, but I understand you work, and whatnot...so, whenever "he" gets excited down there, call your wife, tell her how much you miss her. And if she's up for it...talk dirty, it will make both of you feel better. If it doesn't, perhaps you should rethink your relationship, maybe you don't love her after all.
2007-11-15 14:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cassadan 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess your first question to ask yourself is ....are you and your wife really happy? In love? If the answer is yes, then you will find a way in your heart not to cheat. If you love her enough, then you wont. But if you dont know how to answer those questions, then maybe you need to take a long hard look at your marriage and see if its really what you want. Divorce is horrible but its better then being in a relationship that you just dont want. Not saying you should get a divorce, but when you think about cheating, what do you think about your wife? I love her but........ fill in the blank and see where you stand!
2007-11-15 15:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make it spicy with your wife. Send her love notes and flowers. Have her call you in the night to talk about all the things you all will do together. When you feel the urge to do something else do something for her. Don't put yourself in situations where temptation is there. Let her know how you are feeling and you never know after a few late night phone calls she might be making her trip to her parents a really short one. Good Luck
2007-11-15 14:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by G L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to remember that your are married, not single. It's easy to let your mind wander, especially given your going to be alone for 30 days. But, just think for a second. Is a few minutes of naked time with someone other then your wife worth a life time without naked time with her?
You'd get busted! Either by someone else, like a the scorn of the other woman or by you!!!
Don't be a fool her. Buck up and be a good husband.
2007-11-15 14:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by michael w 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, I feel sorry for your wife. It's only a month. Why did you even get married in the first place if you can't be faithful while she's only gone a month? Here's my advice: Keep your d!ck in your pants and be a good faithful husband and try not to ruin your wife's life with a costly and time consuming divorce.
2007-11-15 14:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
USE YOUR HAND
TAKE A COLD SHOWER
CALL HER AND TALK FOIR AWHILE
IF YOU CANNOT GO WITHOUT FOR A MONTH YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED YOUR PATHETIC.
What is going to happen the day she has a kid with you and well you do not have sex say for possibly a year will you cheat on your wife?. I think you are messed up, grow up and get some balls your married meaning you have her for life no others. Find other ways to keep your mind off woman in general stop renting porn, and find a bible.
2007-11-15 14:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find something else to do, hang out with the guys, watch movies in your underwear, porn, whatever, join a health club and work off some extra steam, sign up for overtime.
You don't want to do something that will come back to haunt you later, like a baby or remember the movie? Fatal Attraction?
Let me see if I can send you extra help.
2007-11-15 15:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't act on your attraction, think that maybe if you do go for another women you are going to feel bad and maybe that will end your marriage and a one night stand is never worth losing something good in your life. Just try not going out as much avoid females if you are out drinking...
2007-11-15 14:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by you suck. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋