2007-11-15 06:03:04 · 35 answers · asked by completely lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ARE YOU KIDDING ME????? LEAVE HER!!! Unless you like having your balls being carried by your wife!!!! Don't loose the visual of your wife naked and having an orgasm with another man.... Sorry but you need to keep this real!
2007-11-15 06:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
Well the question is what does you and your wife want to do. Do both of you want to try to salvage the relationship? If you want to stay married then you need to get to counseling and find out why your wife strayed in the first place. Typically women cheat because they are lacking in something emotionally. Would you be able to forgive her? The baby may or may not be yours. Would you be able to raise and father someone else's child.
Both of you must want the marriage to work. If she or you doesn't want the marriage to work then it is time for you to seek a lawyer. You will need to find out whether this child is yours or not because it will make a difference in deciding custody and child support issues.
Just remember that the saying isn't always true that once a cheater always a cheater. Sometimes the fact that someone cheated can actually bring a couple closer together. After many years of marriage and kids couples can tend to grow distant. Communication can weaken. Just because she had an affair doesn't mean she doesn't love you. I am not suggesting what she did wasn't wrong or hurtful because it was. However, relationships have survived after affairs it just depends on how much you and your wife try or want to.
A marriage and now three kids is alot for either of you to throw away. I know that she threw it away when she decided to have an affair. But there is forgivness in this world and it is up to you whether you want to or not.
But do not feel guilty if you can't.
2007-11-15 06:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Junebaby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pregnant by the one she had an affair with?? if yes i dont know...if u are willing to raise another man's baby up as urs and can stand the situation leave things as they ar, but if ur not ready to do this then : LEAVE!!
i dnt know the situation but from what u say i think ur wife already abused u and ur relationship by havin an affair and if shes pregnant by another man is not a good thing. u dnt have to go through all that. if u dont know hows the dad of the unborn child then as soon as u can try to get a dna results. but for everyone's sake i suggest u to leave if ur not happy. a good solicitor will make a good deal so u can see the kids. this is hard situation, i dnt mean to judge or disrespect
best of luck
xx
2007-11-15 06:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you should be able to answer that. Are you sure the child is as a result of the affair or could it be yours. If it is yours then maybe just maybe you can work through this but this is a very personal matter and not one we are qualified to even have a stab at mate, sorry.
2007-11-15 21:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what does your wife want to do?
Does she love this other man and want to be with him?
If she does then you don't really have a say.
If she doesn't then you need to decide if you can overlook her affair.
Ofcourse you'd need a DNA test on the baby, i believe they can be done before birth now, and then you need to consider if you could raise a baby which might be the product of her lust for another man.
You cannot continue the relationship just for the sake of the kids.
2007-11-15 06:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to determine the paternity of the child, if she chooses to continue with the pregnancy. This can be done via amniocentisis (sp?) but that can be dangerous to the baby, or you can wait until the baby is born. You need to determine the paternity for health reasons, if for no other reason. If you choose to stay together, I would recommend marriage counseling b/c another baby is not going to make your relationship any less stressed than it already is. If you choose to stay together, whomever the baby belongs to, you need to be sure that you can act the same way to this child as you do your other 2 children, b/c it's not the baby's fault it was born into a difficult situation. Good luck!
2007-11-15 06:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
divorce dat bietch!!! ull keep all ur stuff too money house erthin she cheated on u n is preg from da other guy!!! dats good of a answer on y u should stay w/ ur things... as for the kids keep em too!! and da sweet revenge is to let da other guy keep ur wife!
2007-11-15 06:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Michael E. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 03:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay with her, you both need to go get couples counseling. If she is still seeing the other guy you need to figure out if you even want to stay and what would be best for your 2 kids.
2007-11-15 06:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Ruthie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That depends on what you want to do. You can get a paternity test done when the baby is born. Or you can just say the baby is yours no matter what, and raise it. Can you trust your wife again? Or can you get counseling and MAKE this marriage work?
2007-11-15 06:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
well its not really a question any1 else can answer except yourself, can you forgive her? if not whats the point? is the child yours? if not can you bring up some1 elses baby as your own? take some time out think about what you want, then you will no the answer. good luck x
2007-11-15 06:23:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋