To start off for almost a year now my bf of 4yrs has been working out of state to start his career as a diesel mechanic. He works 8days and is home 6days w/me. So, it works out great. My bf rents a room from like a boarding house place. There are like 10 other people living there. I visit him there like once a month. Anyways I really dislike this women that lives there she is extremely rude to me and gives me attitude about everything. I ignore her and she still tries to blame **** on me or something. Everyone else likes me and everything I have no problem with anyone else, but her. Well she asked my bf if he would fix a part on her car for $500. He asked me if he can and I don’t know what to say. I want to say no because I dislike her a lot, and my bf doesn’t like her for how she treats me. I like to be nice and help people. But she is the type of person that thinks people owe her everything. she doesnt apperciate things u do for her.
2007-11-15 06:01:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Plus I wont be able to talk to him for most of the week he is up there. Since after his 11hr shift at work he has to work on the car and then go to sleep. So, no time to call me L. since he usually talks to me an hour or so before bed. So, that time will be spent on the car. yet, I want to say yes because we could use the money since we are planning on getting married in 2009. I don’t know what to do? Some please give me some advice. Should I say yes or no. what would u do in my situation?
2007-11-15 06:02:22 · update #1
Say yes. Maybe you could swallow your pride a little for the sake of your wedding. like you said the money will help. He could always make a stipulation to the repair. Basically saying that; if I give you a hand maybe you could chill out on treating my girl like $hit. Deal or no Deal.
2007-11-15 06:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with your bf is much larger than a week of not being able to talk - and much larger than any of this other woman's pettiness. By all means take her money, (but only if $500 is fair - other wise tell her how much more it would cost to fix what she needs) - show her kindness. If she has been mean and petty intentionally - she will now be embarassed, grateful etc... if she has been mean and petty because she doesn't know what/how to do differently, this can break the ice, if she has a crush on your bf (most likely) this will show her the strength of a love that feels no threat because of trust and depth and she and all of three of you will be better for it...
no matter how you slice it - it's good.
2007-11-15 14:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Can'tBYY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at it this way. He is going to be a diesel mechanic - will you have the say on each customer whether or not he does the job? Of course not. The money sounds good - my concern would be for his health since he seems to work such long hours now. If he does this he needs to have it strictly business - at least half up front and the rest maybe before he is completely finished. Just in case her behavior is jealousy and she gets angry when he doesn't pay more attention to her than business.
2007-11-15 14:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the only mechanic available? It seems strange to me that she would ask him for what is basically a favor if there is this tension between the three of you. This is the perfect opportunity to say to her "you know, whenever my girlfriend is here you act like you don't like her, and that makes everybody uncomfortable. I think it would be better if you found somebody else to do the work, but thanks for asking me."
She may just be socially awkward and this is her way of being nice, or she may be looking for an excuse to spend some time with your boyfriend. If she has an interest in him, he may be unaware and there is no sense stoking that fire.
You don't need the money that badly.
2007-11-15 14:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by notmuchofacook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your boyfriend that it seems fishy, it seems as though this woman is purposely trying to split you two up and by working on her car, could be her way of making it difficult for him to talk to you.
Just let him know that you could use the money, but that you're not too happy with what he has to do. If he doesn't like how she treats you, he should be standing up for you and one way he could do that is by telling her he appreciates the offer and could use the money, but his relationship comes first.
2007-11-15 14:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by !?! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO U( AND UR BF) NEED NOT! SHE IS JEALOUS OF U AND WANT TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF UR SITUATION. U MAY FIGHT BACK HER OR SHIFT UR PLACE TO A BETTER ONE! IF U DO FOR HER CAR, THIS WILL NOT END WITH THIS ONE ONLY.. SHE WOULD CERTAINLY PUT ANOTHERTHING MORE EXPENSIVE ON UR HEAD AFTER SOME TIME AND SUCH SORT MAY CONTINUE UNENDINGLY! HENCE, BEST THING IS SHIFT THE PALCE TO A SAFER ONES AT THE EARLIEST! GOOD LUCK! THANKQ!
2007-11-15 14:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by ssrcmurthy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. if he really needs the money then its smart to do the gig..however, if $500 is not much then just tell him not to .. since she should realize that he loves and respects you and no one can treat his gf that way..
2007-11-15 14:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not see what the problem is if you are going to marrie this guy ,trust is a key to a good marriage so just believe in him and talk about it so it will not be a problem later on good luck
2007-11-15 14:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by J/C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no..it will create more of a relationship with her. weather it is professional or not..but it is up to your boyfriend..Maybe you could suggest he tell her he doesnt have the time but he can recommend a buddy...good luck
2007-11-15 14:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by snapacookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah take her money and try to ignore her. like 50 cents says,"if they hate let em hate and watch the money pile up"
2007-11-15 14:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by slickric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋