How do you make your marriage work?

Question

as many details as possible please.

Answer 1

Staying faithful
Loving each other
Being Honest
Communication
Being Supportive and Understanding
Respecting each other
Caring about each others feelings
Taking breaks from sex if it helps in other areas.
Expressing ourselves
Complimenting each other
Spending quality time together
Doing things as a couple as often as possible.
Ending friendships if they conflict in the marriage
Patience
Having friendship your spouse should be your best friend.
Discuss your feelings with each other.
Have a good sexual and emotional relationship.
Talk, Talk, Talk.

The biggest one of all have God and prayer in your marriage.
Not necessarily a church to go to which is good as well just a strong belief in our heavenly father and his blessings and miracles.

Answer 2

My husband and I married really young. I was 17 and he was 16 and we had a three month old baby when we got married. We had a lot going against us but we have managed to survive seven years so far. It has been a very bumpy ride and not so much fun at times. The main thing that makes a marriage work is communication. If you share everything with each other, your dreams, your fears, your hopes for the future then things will go much smoother. There has to be a definite give and take in marriage. Each person has to be willing to give a little in everything. Share the work load of life. Love each other as much as possible and never go to bed angry at each other. As far as sex goes, try and keep them guessing and keep it as interesting as possible. When things start getting stale, get some literature about techniques and keep trying new things. The death of a lot of marriages is that they say they got bored with their spouse. Do whatever it takes to keep it interesting for both partners.

Answer 3

You have to forgive and admit you are wrong at times. You need to comprimise and be in a partnership. Both partners should help around the house financially and cleaning. Keep doing the little things that you did when you first met like love letters and such. Make each other feel important and be loved unconditional. Make sure that there is lots of affection in and outside of the bedroom. Talk and really listen to one another.

Answer 4

The love between a married couple should follow this:
Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.


Also communication is key, learn how to realistically talk to each other no matter what the situation is. Remember you love each other so any problem if communicated well can be solved.

Answer 5

Marriage is a lot of give and take. Lots of confessing and forgiving. I may be weaker or stronger in areas where my mate is not so I must consider that and be understanding. Try not to write each other off so often when things don't go your way. Be forgiving to one another and try not to be so demanding. Whatever we feel that bothers us we make sure not to offend one another on it. We try to share what is on our minds and try to keep our marriage kindled and strong. We try to include each other in our personal time and interests. We also continually growing to know one another and try to please one another without annoying or offending one another. We try not to let nothing and no one come between us and our time together which is vital for a strong marriage. Children can come between parents by being demanding of both. There has to be a balance in the relationship. We pray alot together and give alot of issues to God when we feel we get into intense arguing. We make every effort to keep the peace even when we have to just say sorry, it's my fault even when it isn't. Pride has to go out of the window and that takes grace from God because human nature wants its way and want to be right always. I have to be very understanding to how my spouse feels and vice versa. Open communication is vital as well. Sharing what's on our heart is important too. We tend to do little things for one another like cook a special meal for one another. I cook breakfast, he makes dinner, we make out later for dessert! We get creative with our relationship and never add a third party to come in between our us time such as sports, shopping, internet, comparing each other to attractive people such as actors and actresses, a big no-no in marriage. We find each other the hottest thing in our eyes and tend to keep it that way. Marriage is work and it's fun to keep it hot and spicy too! Just keep letting each other know that no one will ever take each other's place in heart and mind and soul....and mean it!!

Answer 6

First of all, always be honest. Make sure under no circumstances that you keep secrets of any kind. Have an agreement up front that you both talk about everything, good and bad, as close to when it happens as possible. Obviously there will be times that its not appropriate but do the best you can time wise. Its very bad to wait and let things build up inside you until its worse than it should have been.

Secondly, treat your wife like you would your girlfriend. Remember when you were dating that you would open doors, get the check, tell her she is beautiful, rush to grab and do things for her, try to impress her and make her feel like she was priority number one? Well a huge mistake married people do is forget to do the things that got them to the dance. There were definate things that you did that made her attracted to you more than the next guy. Always remember what you did and dont get lazy. When you get lazy, you dont do the things that made her attracted to you. You seeing my point yet?

This also applies to you physically. When you met, I bet you looked about as good as you could. One of the most common mistakes people once they get married make is to quit working on looking good physically because they think their spouse will love them no matter what.

Sorry to be the thing that breaks cupids arrow but thats just not the case.

Face it ladies, you get lazy and fat and your man WILL notice other women. Now hopefully his character will keep him honoring his vows but the main reason men cheat is for physical attraction towards another. Men are far different from women in this regard. Its one thing that you gain a little weight after you had the kids or maybe you just slowly do over time. Theres one thing to be busting your butt trying to lose the weight and a whole other when you are sitting on the couch with a bag of Chips Ahoy packing more one. Your guy will notice if you are trying and resent you if you arent. Believe me, every single guy wants to feel prideful in his mate. Every single guy wants to hear his buddies say his wife is hot. Noone likes to know that it would take many, many drinks for any male to want to be with his wife. So please, dont delusion yourself with thinking it doesnt matter because it does. Everytime.

Another secret is to always deligate responsibilities. In this matter, always have it decided that you do this and your spouse does that when it comes to housework. If you are both working, you both share housework. If she cooks, you clean up. If she does the laundry, you fold it, etc ,etc. If you agree to the terms in the beginning, you remove all arguement in the future. If you dont agree, you are subject to the whims and mood of another. Basically, agree to the contract then you can always call on them to honor the contract. But dont make someone feel like the slave in the marriage at your beck and call.

Lastly no matter who brings home the most money, dont let it go to your head. One of the worst mistakes a man or a woman can do is even think "well since I make XX more than you do, you should do this to make up or since I worked 12 hrs and you only worked 10, you should..." That shows complete disrespect and feelings that you are superior. A couple is only successful if they both feel equal. Dont make your spouse resent you or dont resent your spouse over income. Because in the end, when you are both old and retired, it doesnt mean anything what you made 30 years ago. What matters is your love and devotion for each other.

Good luck!

Answer 7

i don't make anything i just take things as they come up. you gotta realize that in a marriage there are two wills at work and there's a time to give and a time to take, i've been in enough relationships to know that once you start putting any kind of effort into MAKING things work rather then allow them to happen it might be time to take a step back and reevaluate

Answer 8

i don't call him 24-7 i give him his space i let him hang with his friends if he wants to spend Sunday at his friends watching the football game i let him i don't make a big deal out of it! i don't hold sex back i usually am pretty cooperative in that area I'm not one of those women who is constantly crying about every little thing i have my friends he has his! we love each other, respect each other and trust each other if you do all three of those things your marriage should last forever! we have been married for going on 6 years now ;)

Answer 9

In no particular order:
Trust and be trustworthy,
Love completely but intellgently,
Make your relationship the eye of the storm,
Share your dreams and fantasies,
Recognize your partner's desires and points of view are valid (even if you think they are crazy),
Be patient and kind,
Don't use sex as a weapon.
Leave out: being judgemental, controlling, condesending, jealous and superior.

Answer 10

We communicate so that we don't argue. We are friends before we are anything else. We laugh a lot and we love each other on many different levels. We trust and admire one another.

He is my best friend.