I've been with this guy for 5 years now and we have a 10 month old daughter together. I don't know why every time we have a fight he always wants to split up. It doesn't matter if its something big or nonsense. We use to live in together until i moved back to the US just to work so i can bring him here. Every time we argue he keeps telling me he doesn't want to be with me anymore and that i should just forget about petitioning him. I feel really awful because i v'e sacrificed so much and i've givin him everything. I dont know what to do.
2007-11-15 05:37:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry to tell you, but he's probably already moved on and is just trying to get you to break it off with him. Since you are having a long distance relationship right now it's probably hard for him and he started seeing someone else. I know it's hard because of your daughter, but you should really break up with him.
2007-11-15 05:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he really is looking for an excuse to get out so i think you need to prepare yourself for this. it is loving to let someone go and you are more likely to have him around for your daughter if you can do so before something happens again. Yes you've sacrificed for him but that's not good. compromise is important but not giving up who you are..he doesn't want you to sacrifice yourself and that's very loving. Get a councellor to give you some support. Gingerbread do alot for single parents, which is what you are facing. Sorry but you've got to deal with this in a reasonable way for yours and your child's sake. don't push him into doing something to make you hate him
2007-11-15 13:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In one word MANIPULATION. When he says these things to you, you react, and he plays on that. Next time tell him okay, that it is up to him. Tell him you are going to move on with your life, and that you hope his gets better. Let him know that you will send him pictures of his daughter as they are taken. You need to quit sacrificing for him and think about your daughter, he will change his mind, but don't let him control you with quilt any longer.
2007-11-15 13:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not putting in an effort, you have to ask yourself if you should keep trying. Do you think it will get better?
Or is it a cultural thing that he does not feel in control of the situation and does not like to be in need of your help?
It's a tough choice, but maybe things are not meant to be.
I hope things turn out well.
2007-11-15 13:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by AlexAtlanta 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's trying to make you feel guilty and he's insecure and needs you to constantly prove that you love him. Or he really does want to break up if he keeps asking for a split during fights; it's not normal. You should test him. After a fight and he tells you that he wants to split up, why don't you say,"Okay, let's break up." I'm sure he's gonna come running back if it's a insecurity thing.
2007-11-15 13:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by mlvue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey theres no nice way of putting this but he wants to go. If he was keen on staying he'd try to fina a way with you to work things out. Just sit him down and ask him straight do you really want to leave me? You cant expect him to stay with you for you he has to want to himself otherwise the relationship will never work out i'm sorry about your child and im sure you could arrange for him to still keep contact.
2007-11-15 13:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by xGlamGirlx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really thought having his child and working your head off to get him in the US would make him love you? He was in it for a fling and to waste some time. He has no intention of coming to the US and being a daddy and hubby. You have been used. But hey... you got a kid out of it.
2007-11-15 13:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he wants out.. sorry. obviosly he isnt worth your time. raise your daughter the best you can and give her extra love just in case hes too immature to want to be a part of that too. you two will be much better off
2007-11-15 13:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by cheeka2162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's his way of controlling you. He wants you to get so scared of breaking up that you'll do anything he asks.
Call his bluff. Next time he threatens to break up with you tell him ok, I'll stop the paperwork and see what happens.
2007-11-15 13:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by LB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he really doesnt want the relationship or he is scared .....i would move on, and if its meant to be it will be....but i would not let him forget about his daughter, and i would force him to pay child support..
2007-11-15 13:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by marcellahanseth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋