I had a good friend who got raped, she use to go out with men alot and she was in love even with a guy! After the rape she tried to kill herself, then she kept changing her appearance like she was trying to find a different person within her to accept. Now she prefers women to date? Does this happen alot?
2007-11-15 05:10:54 · 20 answers · asked by UTell-Me 4 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Her job is working with rape victims to help them.
2007-11-15 05:17:16 · update #1
my aunt did the exact same thing. i wouldnt really question it though. be a good friend and just support her no matter what she decides to do.
2007-11-15 05:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Erica S 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the emotional strength of the person. Some people live normal lives after being raped but others change the way they approach sex.
My girlfriend was raped and I can still see the effect on her even after 5yrs. She wanted to kill herself when it happened and tried to find someone else within herself. It was hard for her to tell me because she did not want to remember it. Though I have helped her get over most part of it, the way she sees sex is very different. She sometimes gets too close to women that bothers me sometimes. To her, sex is a wicked thing to do.
2007-11-15 14:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by pkdann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this happens a lot and is a very natural situation for a rape victim. She may feel comfortable being a lesbian for the rest of her life, in which case try to support her because rape trama can last for a long time. She may in time find a guy she likes and as long as she has a non sexual relationship with him for the first few months she will slowly learn to trust him and feel like a worthy and loved human being. It happened to a friend of mine, she just needed time and support :)
2007-11-15 14:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure the trauma of a rape often makes the victim dislike sex from the perpetrator's particular sex. and in some cases, i'm sure this does go to the extent of 'switching' sexual preferences. i don't believe it's common though. much more common is shunning sex altogether or becoming very promiscuous. it sounds like she still needs some help herself. i'd be a little concerned with what help she's giving to rape victims when she's clearly not over her own experience. (i'm not saying that she's not helping at all! just that she could help more if she were as healed as possible)
2007-11-15 13:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know some people who had gone through the same thing as your friend and also some women who we're physically and mentally abused in their marriages and relationships with men. From what I heard from these friends, they say after being abused by men, they found that women seem to be more understanding then the men which they were with. Women tend to bond with other women more then men do. It's more likely to see 2 women shopping for underwear and asking each other...does my a@@ look big in this? vs 2 men shopping for underwear ⺠I think what grosses some people out is the thought of same sex having sex. Most people can better accept 2 women having sex vs 2 men having sex. As for myself....eh whatever makes you happy!! I really don't care! lol ⺠I hope your friend finds peace and happiness. Sorry for all who have gone through such a thing. I can relate for sure. Peace. âº
2007-11-15 13:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kaualani E 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I do not know if this happens a lot, but it does happen. One reason rape is such an awful crime is because of the things it does to your mind. One thing that is common with women who have been raped is what it does to the mind as she tries to process everything that has happened. This includes trying to take responsibility for the act, shame, worthlessness, and so many more things. Then as she process this information and begins to deal with it her personality begins to change. So, yes, she is trying to find a different person and it would not surprising she would change her sexual orientation.
2007-11-15 13:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's in a lot of pain that's fer sure. Plus she was in love with the guy, too, that's really got ter hurt; tell yeh what, it might get a bit rough, don't turn yehr back on her; she may stay the way she is, who knows. Is it common? Pain does a lot of crazy things is all I can say.
2007-11-15 20:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Your friend might just have a very strong aversion to men after being raped. I would recommend counseling.
2007-11-15 14:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen one before, but her change in sex preference was brought about by hatred towards men. Then after she meet a guy that loves her no matter what happened to her.She change her sex preference again. She needs professional help.
2007-11-15 14:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by ojiban 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a psychological problem, not a physical one. She needs to get therapy with someone trained in working with rape victims. She is still in shock. Please support her as she moves forward--she is still acting out from the rape.
2007-11-15 13:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anna P 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Rape will not change your sexual orientation. It sounds like your friend still has serious issues from her attack. She needs to get some intensive counselling.
2007-11-15 14:11:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋