If your parents are still living, please make every effort to spend time with them this Thanksgiving/Christmas/Holiday season. This will be my first Christmas and Thanksgiving without my father. He passed away earlier this year from cancer. We had wonderful Christmases together, so I don't have any regrets, but I'm not looking forward to going to my parents house and not seeing him. So, no matter if you're arguing with your parents, don't like them too much, whatever...put that stuff behind you and realize that life is short. People you love will be gone long before you're ready to let them go.
2007-11-15 05:05:39 · 10 answers · asked by JustMyOpinion 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
thank u for this advise.. my mother and i dont get on at all. she literally hates me. im 22 years old and a female.. she has never really gotten on with me like other girls and their mothers. we dont talk, we dont actually speak, and its only now as im gettin older that i realise that my parents wont be around forever. i wud love nothin more than my mother to love me, and go shopping with me, and listen to gossip with me,u know the little things.
but i dont think that wil ever happen. and i really hope it does before anything happens to her or me, because i dont think i could live with that.
i hav tried to speak to her, and i have tried so hard. but its hard when she can reduce me to tears when i hear her callin me names and stuff to her friends when they come into my home, and when she tells my brother to beat me up.
the only thing keepin my head up is my dad, because i get on well with him, but i love them the same.
please keep ur fingers crossed that somethin good happens for me..
and im sorry to hear about ur father. i know il have to experience this some day.. but i hope its not for a long long time... and i hope all my differences with my family are resolved before this time..
thank u once again for ur comment.
2007-11-15 05:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your Dads passing.We had a close call a few months ago,My Dad had a mini stroke he is only in his sixties this really scared me and put things in perspective for me,I call him more and go and see him and my mom much more,Since we only live a half an hour away.I am looking forward to Thanksgiving with my own family and with My Parents and My Brother and his Family.
2007-11-15 05:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big hugs to you and sorry for your loss.
I really do hear what your saying. My Dad just had a double bypass a few weeks ago and he aged so much and took a lot out of him and my Mom has Parkensin's desease...They are in their mid 70's and I always wonder what the holidays will be like.
I hear you and many hugs to you and thank you for the reminder!
2007-11-15 05:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Amy A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in this position last year, because my mother died in July. It wasn't as bad as I thought, although it was not my best Christmas ever. We talked about past holidays and tried to keep up as many of the traditions Mom followed as possible.
You're right about letting things go. One of my sons was living in my rental property (not paying rent) and pretty much trashed it. I told him to clean it up or make other arrangements. He moved out and won't speak to me. It's almost 2 years (he did come to Mom's funeral) and that really hurts. I've tried to reach out to him many times, but he's not interested. I hope we can resolve this before something happens to one of us, because the one left will always hurt if not.
2007-11-15 05:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Debdeb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. Just remember your Father would want everyone to remember the true spirit of Christmas, and be thankful that you have the rest of your family to celebrate with. God Bless you and yours.
2007-11-15 05:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by kepsaw 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Such good advice...im 16 and chersih both my parents but most of my friends say they cant stand their parents even after one of our friends dad died that just dont get time is precoius! Happy Holidays to You and God Bless
2007-11-15 05:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by I ♥ CHRiS BR0WN 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your loss...... any ideas how to get along with my father he doesnt care about me so igave up on him
2007-11-15 06:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss, but i personally dont care to ever see my "father" ever again.
2007-11-15 06:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Elisheva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto your comment.
2007-11-15 05:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for your advice!!
2007-11-15 06:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Due with baby#1 06/08/09♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋