would you confront your husband's friend if you knew talks about you when you leave the room?

Question

it's his best friend's sister who talks the most but she starts the trash talking and everyone goes along with it but when she sees me, she acts all nice (like a typical hypocrite).

my husband does defend me but the ***** won't stop talking.

Answer 1

Been there!! Tell them that if there is something to say..say it to your face, or else the invitation is no longer there for them to be coming to your place. If your husband gets upset, too bad, it's your place as well, and any disrespecting person should not be allowed. I don't let anyone into our home that has or had disrepsected me or my husband or children.

Answer 2

If I over heard some things I did not like then I would turn right around and confront them. Your husband should have defended you anyway, but I know they never seem to do what they should.
Yes I would certainly confront them if they bothered me because I would want it to stop and the longer you let it go on the worse it will get.

Answer 3

I'd confront the sister who is doing most of the trash talking. It may be uncomfortable but since it seems like it bothers you (as it would most people) i'd just do it. Just try to be nice about it. Avoiding it won't solve the problem. If she continues then at least you did what you could and c'est la vie.

Answer 4

What I would do is go out of the room and when she would start and one minute pass, enter the room, stare her icily and say "Glad to know your views. Unfortunately I can't stoop to your level and asnwer back because I was brought up with better manners". Then turn quietly and leave. And then call your husband and tell him what happened and how hurt you were. But do that immediately before they call him.

Answer 5

I would confront her in a sarcastic sense. Like stand up to leave the room and ask could you get anyone anything--look at her directly ans saying something like--what about you "susan", can I get you something or would you rather me just hurry and leave room so you can talk trash?

Answer 6

Hell yes I'd confront him. I'd confront them all & tell them if they had something to say about me, to say it to my face. Let's clear the air here, get it all out in the open so we can stop this nonsence once & for all.
I'd tell them they're being insensitive & rude and bad influences on your husband.
They're acting like grown-up gossip bullies. Put your foot down......and do it when you're feeling calm. Plan out what you may say.....so that it doesn't come across as rage, but intelligence.
Good Luck & peace

Answer 7

You should confront them, that kind of stuff is not cool. Also, if your husband is there and lets that stuff happen that's not really a good thing either. But you should definately say something to at least try to have it stop.

Answer 8

Hell no sister, You need to tell her that you know what she is up to and you do not appriciate it. I had to do this with my sister in law ans she has been completley different ever since, no trashing me or anyone else for that matter. I think people like this need to be confronted or else they honestly believe that they are doing no wrong.

Answer 9

No If it were me, I would just make snide comments every now and again to let here know you know!
Dont give her the satisfaction of trying to defend yourself then she'll turn it around and have something else to talk about.

Answer 10

Me personally would say something. But if your husbands standing right there he should be sticking up for you. I would ask her why she has to talk about you and tell her you don't appreciate her saying anything about you. If she doesn't stop don't let her to your house and don't go around her. But yes I would definately say something.