I recently discovered my husband was calling two females on his cell phone and he claims it was nothing but calls nothing further happened and he assures me nothing else will ever happen like this but I just cant seem to let it go how do you move past the hurt
2007-11-15 04:40:02 · 19 answers · asked by tsexxxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's gonna take time, but it's not all on you. He's gotta prove to you he's worth trusing again. At least you caught him before he caught something & gave it to you
EDIT: Hey triumph - you forgot #3 - the cheater who doesn't give a **** about anyone else's feelings but his own.
2007-11-15 05:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Leia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't let it go because you don't believe him...right? When he was explaining it to you it all made sense, it was all very logical. So why did the bottom of you stomach drop like you had just jumped out of a plane on your first skydiving trip. Woman just have a 6th sense and it just doesn't shut up until you KNOW it was all "nothing". So decide, bury your head ( which has some wonderful, but temporary benefits) or satisfy that need to know( always sucks but they say knowledge is power and it is). I personally believe there are two types of cheating men 1) The man who truly understands the pain he causes and feels guilty and sorry enough he'll never do it twice.
2) The man who, yes, feels guilty but also tries to justify it. Often by blaming their partners for some short coming.
They will eventually cheat again, they feel powerful when their significant other breaks and forgives them. As long as they believe they can manipulate forgiveness from you there is no reason for them not to. The only way to stop #2 :) is to get rid of them.
2007-11-15 13:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by triumph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any other evidence other than phone calls that he may be cheating?
I mean if he has cheated in the past, then let the past be the past, but maybe you need to talk to your husband about your feelings of hurt. It sounds like you have a hard time trusting him and that you are still torn up about the past affair.
Give him a chance and also take some time to explore your feelings and find out why you still do not trust him. Good Luck!
2007-11-15 12:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calling is possible a precursor to cheating. Is he cheating emotionally or physically? If you let it go on then it could go all the way. Time to discuss what you both want in life, but thought that was decided at the wedding...some people will serial cheat if the spouse does nothing. Let him know that it is NOT acceptable and the secret phone calls have to stop now or else he can hit the curb and be single.
2007-11-15 14:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man are dogs,he was like that before you married him,is just that you were unlucky this time you caught him and now you are hurt.He will tell his girlfriends to play safe.
The best advise I can give you is
1.Don't argue with him,he will be angry
2.Respect your husband
3.Make sure that you look more attractive like when you were his girlfriend
4.Tell those girls that your husband is HIV,they will live him
5.Last but not least,don't touch his cellphone
Your man still loves you.
GOOD LUCK
2007-11-15 13:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Temba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Girlfriend let me tell u I have been through worse then you. My husband stooped very looooow to the point where I prayed to God every night that he take my life because of the horrible things that were said and done. Call the numbers and see what they have to say, and make sure you introduce yourself as his wife.
2007-11-15 12:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by ????? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly, you need to understand and accept that he made a mistake and is sorry for it. Give it time and you will get over it. Meanwhile, try spending more time with your husband, have fun together, let him see that you've forgiven him. I'm sure everything will be fine. Good luck!
2007-11-15 12:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by $he 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get over it, believe what he told you and move on or, pack your bags and get out. It sucks you know, but how long have you been together? Are you willing to give that up because of a phone call?
2007-11-15 12:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should calm down.The only thing you can do at this moment is love him and take care of all his need.soon he will find that he has got such a wounderful wife and he will not do anything that will hurt you.love your husband ,respect his feelings and dont irritate him for silly reason.soon everything will change
2007-11-15 13:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by REKHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband was ever unfaithful, I would divorce him.
His explanation is not satisfactory to you, do what needs to be done to deal with the situation.
talk about it, toss it around, discuss it, cry about it, get mad about it, hell, puke it up if you must, deal with it and move on.
2007-11-15 12:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋