I fancied this girl, I think she must have realised I liked her because I can't think of anything I did to annoy her. Anyway now she dosen't talk too me much and theres always tension when we do talk. She won't even look at me sometimes! I think she's being pathetic? do you agree or am I being too harsh thinking this
2007-11-15 04:38:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are being too harsh. She is in conflict right because she probably fancies you also and is not comfortable with the situation. Avoidance is a strong reaction to conflict and allows her to cope emotionaly with the termoil. Although we want to believe we live in a free and open society we do not. Imagine that she has been told all her life that she was suppose to date men, love men, marry a man, have children and only have a sexual relationship with a man. Its in every part of our growing up. Now, imagine you like another women, and you actualy think you may prefer them or that you at least want to experience being with them. Throw family pressures, pressures from society and you have serious conflict. Know this, if she were not interested in an experience with you, she would not think anything of it and not show any sort of emotion or other manifistation of attitude toward you. It would be out of the question and not even an issue. The fact that she does react emotionaly bodes well for you.
My suggestion, be a freind, be kind and give it some time. Let her warm up to the idea. Put her on the back burner and wait for her to make the next move. Just make sure you are available and around when she does.
2007-11-15 04:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
For what you say I think you never shared your feelings with her, still she feels unconfortable with you, it's probably a religious thing, I don't think she qualify to be called an homophobic, so pathetic no i don't think so.
2007-11-15 12:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Paul Preston 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need try to sit down and really talk to her, that is if you stay friends. I'm assuming she's not gay and feels you were coming on to her and she didn't like it. Either that or she is gay and you aren't her type but she didn't know a way to tell you. Try to talk to her and see where it goes.
2007-11-15 12:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Deny_Zoo29 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's uncomfortable. Maybe not pathetic, but it might help if you talked to her.
2007-11-15 12:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by John K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're not being harsh maybe she is pathetic or maybe she like you back its hard to tell. =/
2007-11-15 12:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by babykhi16 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she doesn't share your feelings she might feel uncomfortable around you now.
2007-11-15 12:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by alanakole 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wait wait wait! are you gay?
2007-11-16 16:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by interesting 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HETERO PRIDE
2007-11-15 12:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋