A friend of mine has fell out of love with her spouse, and talked about divorce with him. After long talks and consuling he wants to work on the marriage and so does she for their children. Do you think it's possible for her to fall back in love with him, after all the damage is done?
2007-11-15 04:35:09 · 15 answers · asked by prettylady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think so, but falling 'back into love' would be a lot harder than it was the first time. Hopfully, the problem isn't that she doesn't love him anymore, but that she doesn't really like him all that much right now. I have been married a long time and I know there have been times we haven't been each other's favorite people (I'm not too awfully happy with my spouse right now), but we have always found our way back on to each other's good side in the end. Marriages are hard work and that means working onward even when you don't know if that is what you want. Because, in the end, it IS what we want and what we signed up for.
2007-11-15 04:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_in_md 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Happens all the time. Anything is possible with love involved. Both have to be willing to come to a place of compromise and respect for one another. Both have to agree to lay their feelings open and on the line in front of one another and share their heart knowing that they will not one day betray and use this against one another if another argument comes up. Find out what's bothering each other and what are your pet peeves? The same way when you did not know each other before you got married, use that same effort and creativity to find out what bothers each other, what pleases you guys, what makes you smile. Use that same passion and fire that you once had in the beginning to fan the flame of love again. It's take two to tango and make a relationship work. Relationships take work and must be maintained continually. Go out on dates and do little things with each other. Start over and pray for one another while you are at it.
2007-11-15 04:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by GI Jane 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope.....I can`t see how you can NOT LOVE someone, and then relove them again... You probably didn`t love them that much in the first place, ( got married for the wrong reasons), or something really drastically wrong happened, ( abuse, or violence).But, if you seperate, and then find yourself still loving that person, then there is something that was unattended to. You didn`t fall out of love, the love was there, something got in the way.....
2007-11-15 04:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never completely fall out of love with someone especially if you were really in love with them to begin with.
You just can't stop loving someone just like that, you can have less feelings for someone, but other then that no it's impossible, trust me if i could fall out of love with someone then i would have a long time ago.
2007-11-15 04:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can have diminished feelings and have them come back full throttle. You can love someone and have no passion for them. People confuse love and passion. When women say they love you, but aren't "in love" with you. This is essentially what that means. If you loose the passion, I'm sure you can get that back, but if you really fall out of love, I'm not so sure.
2007-11-15 06:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Terance 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you ever loved somebody no matter what happens a part of you will always love them! It has been said that "Once you love someone that person if forever a part of you!" There may be cicumstances depending on what happened like if he cheated that she may never fully trust him again and have a hard time in that aspect!
2007-11-15 04:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, but how likely depends on many factors. If both are committed to working things out and seeing if they can get back on track, the old spark could certainly return.
2007-11-15 04:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if married committed to each other with children yes not otherwise today noone makes such an effort without marriage
2007-11-15 04:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by bodymindheartsoulunion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they remember what they liked about each other, but in the end the reason they left each other will butt it's ugle little head in again. One exception~ if it was a habit of some sort and they changed (completely, not just say they changed and end up being the same).
2007-11-15 05:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by muzacmaster44 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there is a will there is a way.If they are really concerned about their child then they will be able to adjust and by the passing of the time love will come back.All that is required is stop thinking about themself and their own satisfaction.
2007-11-15 04:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by REKHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋