How important is sex in a marriage?

Question

When you're in your twenties.

Can a marriage survive when one of you doesn't ever want it?

Answer 1

Sex is very important. It isn't the most important thing but it is still important. And if you are only in your twenties and having concerns about sex then it needs to be fixed as soon as possible. Both partners need to look at sex as subject to be learned. Learn each other and experiment and find out what yourself and the other likes. But displeasure's in sex could lead to other problems.

Answer 2

No way. A marriage cannot survive without it if the two people are healthy and one person wants to be intimate. If one is injured or in a wheelchair, that's a different story. The marriage then takes on a new level. But two people in their 20's and one person wants it and other does not is a recipe for disaster. Resulting in hurt feelings, blame, shame, confusion, low self-esteem, resentment, anger. An affair will surely ensue shortly after.

Answer 3

It's hard when your spouse rejects you no matter how old you are I am 20 and my Husband is 27 we have sex 1-3 times a week I personally could go everynight however he works 115+ hours in a two week time period so he is worn out and NO he is not cheating most of those hours are at home on the computer doing graphs for pipeline surveys and he drives 60 miles for work to train others to help him get his large work load dispersed! So Its important and It would be alot harder if he never wanted to but as long as he still wants it I am OK! Oh and he had one of his testicle removed because he had Cancer which caused a decrease in his sex drive But please don't say mean things it was a really hard thing for him!

Answer 4

Marriage can survive if the alternate is accepted by the one, who does not want sex.It is most important part of life. No one can claim to have won the desire of sex.

Answer 5

I would be questioning the "one" who doesn't want it? Yes, sex is an important part of marriage. When another partner doesn't want it is usually a sign they're cheating or something is wrong mentally.

Answer 6

How important is sex? If you're both happy, then it's 10% of the marriage. If one of you are not happy, then it's 90% of the marriage.

-wolfy-

Answer 7

sex is the most important thing on a 20 year old cause u r just beginning ur sexual life.If u r not wanting it there is something wrong with the relationship.when two people r married they look forward for those intimate moments when they share not only their feelings but also explore each others bodies and give pleasure to each other.

Answer 8

Sex isn't that big of a deal to marriage unless it isn't happening and one person wants it to happen. My wife rarely desires sex, I desire it all the time. It is so hard to find a compromise. I don't want her to do it if she doesn't want to, but I still want it. It would be nice to at least have your partner give you sexual satisfaction even if they don't want intercourse. In order for this not to continue to balloon into something bigger, it must be talked about and a compromise must be reached. It is unfair to expect someone you love and care about to be constantly denied something they want. After all, what is wrong with wanting to have intimacy with your spouse?

Answer 9

I don't think it will last if one NEVER wants it. The sexually neglected person will be tempted more outside of the marriage. Sex is also a GREAT way to bond emotionally and without that close emotional bond I think it can go nowhere but down....yikes, I hope that never happens to me :(

Answer 10

I would question why the other person doesn't ever want it. Sex should be a healthy part of marriage.