Is there realistically people out there who?

Question

are Happily Married! Or does that come after years of staying with the one partner........... with no regrets @ any stage.?

It's nice to see,

I have yet to see a real genuine couple who are truly happy with each other.....

Answer 1

It's all a matter of perspective I guess. Point well taken about whether single people are always happy too with no regrets. You have a choice in life, be happy or don't. Sure you can have bad days but overall if you're choosing to be happy, you'll be happy. Bad things will happen of course, they always do. No marriage and no person is perfect. You can keep looking for the next best thing thinking that the grass is always greener but after time, you'll probably realize that it's all grass and all grass eventually sprouts weeds - unless, of course, you're very diligent about feeding it the right stuff to keep the weeds out.

It also requires watering, mowing, raking, and airing regularly. All good things require effort. A good marriage is no different. A good life is no different.

The statistics say that if you're in a happy marriage, you live longer. I do believe that because I think that in order for the human soul to flourish, it requires the love of another person. It's incredible to know that you're not in it alone, that someone very special has your back and that at times, you have theirs.

So, I believe that if you want to be happy in a marriage, you have to work at it, you give, you take, you give some more. You love and accept your partner for who they are and spend the energy that some people spend on trying to change your partner on trying to accept them and trying to make them happy. I know it's not really possible to make other people happy, we can only make ourselves happy. But it sure doesn't hurt to do everything you can for them.

Of course, there are relationships where there's just too much really bad stuff (abuse, neglect, etc.) going on and in those cases (and they're rare), the marriage isn't worth saving. In those cases, it's time to move on, get healthy yourself, and find yourself a healthy, comfortable relationship elsewhere.

Good luck -- hope you find happiness....

Answer 2

My parents have been together for 35 years happily! I believe that if you stay together after your kids are grown and out of the house you were always happily married. Some people stay together for the kids sake and some stay for comfortablity! My father met my mother when she just got a divorce and had 3 kids already 6,4, and 6 mths old then 4 years later they had me and that was that! My dad was 20 when he met my mom who was 26. No one can believe it when I tell them that my bro's & sis are not my fathers b/c he was a wonderful father, husband, and now grandfather to all of us! They have been through thick and thin! But at the end of the day they are HAPPILY MARRIED!!!!!!

Answer 3

I think there are honestly married couples that are truly happy with each other and their relationship. Things do usually get easier after many, many years..but then again, marriages fall apart after that as well. You just have to be willing to work at it everyday, if not, it's not going to last.

I've been married for 20yrs and we have no plans to change that. It's been really hard. Yes, I have my regrets, but we can't go back in time to change those, so all we can do is go forward.

Answer 4

I'm happily married, but we've only been together for 3 years. From what I've observed, my in-laws are very happy together, and they've been married for over 40 years. So yes, there ARE happily married people out there.

Answer 5

i asked this question several months ago. Truthfully, people have to work at marriage. A good way to help set your mind at ease is Dr Phil's book Lovesmart, which will undoubtedly answer your question. But the answer is, yes and no! My own mum, married to my dad for 37 years, says you have to take each day as it comes, they are happily married, but they can and do have blistering arguments, but i know either of them would crumble if something happened to the other. I'm married, it truly is a case of survival at the moment, hopefully, given time, it'll turn out a "success". If not, i plan to whack him over the head with a frying pan and hopefully it'll cure his crazy inclinations to be diametrically opposed to me at any given opportunity.

Answer 6

My sister and her husband are very happily married and have been for 25 years. Unfortunately it didn't happen for me, I was married for 18 years and regrets all along the way, except for my daughter. I do envy my sister sometimes but I'm happy for her.

Answer 7

Are there people out there who are "happily single" at all times with no regrets at any stage? Life is full of regrets, choices, troubles, and rough spots, its much brighter when you have someone who cares about you, your needs, your wishes, and your dreams and you are just as concerned about them. For better AND worse, I am very happily married.

Answer 8

I'm very happily married. Yeah, we have our disagreements but we are actually happy together. When we got married our friends were so happy to see it because they all thought we were so perfect together. It's true, we're both very understanding and we communicate well. I love him no matter what and through anything.

Answer 9

I`1m happily married and have been for 9 years, no regrets at all......

Answer 10

We are!! You have to work at it of course, it doesn't just happen, but as long as you love and respect each other it will all turn out fine. I have never had any regrets. It was miserable before I met him.