I have been married for 13 years and I have 3 wonderful kids. I just can't stand my wife anymore. We have less in common as I have matured and she still acts like she is in High School (I'm 37 she's 36). We hardly ever talk and when we do it's usually an arguement. We haven't have sex in months and we never do anything together. Is it time for me to go?
2007-11-15 04:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by sasquatch5170 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me add that we did see a therapist. I am still going while she chose to quit. She spends most of her nights out with girlfriends and spends more money then I make. I have tried everything I can think of to save the marriage but it is a one way fight.
2007-11-15 04:34:24 · update #1
Sounds like it's past time to move on...
But, don't forget your children when you do...
EDIT...
If your heart isn't there and you know you aren't willing to work on this thing...and you do not feel as if your wife has the comprehension or the maturity to do all the counseling and book reading then it's time, it's only fair to you, your children, and your wife...
2007-11-15 04:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by txbeverly30 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of all it seems from what little you've written that you place the blame at her feet. Have you really done all you can to keep your marriage alive?
On the other hand, you were married so young ( i was 20 so I get It) did you really have any idea of what you were getting into?
I also noticed that you said you can't stand her anymore, but you didn't say you aren't in love with her anymore (and yes you can feel both).
Only you can decide if you're done, however, for your kids sake, you should talk to her first ( she may feel the same way about you) see a shrink and at least learn how to get along. "You know you're done when you can walk away without hate, anger and can wish your partner the best and mean it."
2007-11-15 12:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by triumph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the decision to get a separation/divorce shouldn't be decided solely by you. you're married and have a family. you have responsibilities and obligations to others (ie wife and kids).
you need to have a good long chat with your wife and figure out what is the future of this family. if you start arguing again, then i would suggest you seek the help of a marriage counseller. he/she would be able to make suggestions towards making changes and compromises that you can both work on for the better of the relationship.
especially when there are kids involved, isn't it worth trying to salvage the relationship with your wife than to break up a happy home without trying?
2007-11-15 12:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man do the right thing - at the moment its to try avenues to sort it out with this woman - counselling, make an effort, read, go on holiday, take her out on dates.
After that please live your life! Your life is special and not to be wasted being unhappy! Its not healthy for anyone.
Get in shape,watch your diet is also my advice - you are in a slump dont let go on YOU.
Youre too young to let this continue - please sort it out and work towards being happy.
EDIT:
ok, shes not trying..get your financial affairs in order..does she know what you earn?Where all the money is?Also, has she been unfaithful? She sounds like shes reliving her youth..could help in a court case.
2007-11-15 12:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine Girl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to put some effort into your marriage. Take a class or read a book on communication and see if you can make any progress. Consider counseling as well.
2007-11-15 12:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by monicanena 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yep, time to move on......I bet your therapist is going to say this very soon. If she`s willing to spend so much time away from you and with her friends, ( out doing God knows what)???Why stay and waste time with nonsense?? She`ll never grow up.
2007-11-15 13:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by lost2day 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have done everything possible to stay out of the divorce court room,... well,........ I hate to tell you this but maybe it's time to call it's quits. This week my divorce was made final, after 33 years, if I can answer any questions email me, and the best to you.
2007-11-15 12:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you guys need to agree to put more effort into your marraige or that it is past time to move on.....
Good luck and remember this will affect your kids greatly
2007-11-15 12:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pretty much now would be that time to do that. Once people are bored of each other and just fight, there pretty much is nothing more to do. Separation sounds about good right now
2007-11-15 12:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take an exciting trip together, ignite that spark! You'll be doing something together, and the sex is usually great during exciting times in foreign places......
2007-11-15 12:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋