I don't want a divorce.....?

Question

I think my husband is cheating. I don't really have that much proof but it is that gut feeling and he is being shady. How do I snap him out of this mid life crisis and remind him of our last 13 years together????????

Answer 1

I'm not sure what to say. If you feel he is cheating then he might be. But on the other hand he might NOT be.I know from all my past relationships if i felt they was they was. But how will you ever know YOU need to just come out and ask because 13 years together is a long time i think why throw all that away. i would just ask see how he react to you that should tell you if he is or if he isn't. Good Luck I'll be praying for you.

Answer 2

This. In my opinion. Is the worst feeling in the world.... I have never been wrong about it either. I have had that gut feeling and it's always ended up being correct. This might be different with your case and I hope it is... I wouldn't wish this heartbreak on anyone. I say you sit down with your husband and you just lay it on the line. This is the only way to be true to yourself. Just say to him, I need for you to honor me with being truthful, I have given you 13 years of my life and now I want you to tell me the truth. If he loves you he will be honest and tell you that he's found something else. You will have to decide if you are the type of person that gives second chances. I do not believe in them when it comes to hitting or cheating, but people are different. If he is cheating and you know that you cannot get past it then you need to be very strong and leave him. It's not easy but you have to look at the rest of your life and what it would be like... wondering all the time. No fun. Good luck, I hope he's just stressed out and working alot, but if it's happening do yourself the justice of moving on.

Answer 3

You need to be congratulated for your honesty and understanding. You want to get your husband out of his mid life crisis. This is a deep sign of your profound love for him. Pluck up a lot of Courage. You with your 13 years of life together can indeed work the miracle of love. Show him more compassion, try to spend as much as time with him, engage in doing things both of you enjoy the best. What is impossible with humans is possible with God. Trust God and entrust this matter to Him. Be sure of my prayers too. If you have children it is praiseworthy to organize short picnics or outings with the whole family. Anything that can bind your family should be welcomed.

Answer 4

Never assume anything until you have solid proof of his possible cheating. One way you could possibly tell though is get some sexy lingerie and tell him he can ravage your body do whatever he wants. If he comes back saying he is tired or not in the mood I would be suspicious of an affair.

I hope you find out something soon
May God Bless You and Best Wishes.

Answer 5

Get the book "The proper care and feeding of husband's" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. It's got some great advice. Show him why you got married in the first place and see what happens.

Answer 6

A). If you don't have any proof, don't assume anything

B). Don't think you can change him if he is, only he can
change his ways

C). "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on
me.
*go ahead and forgive him the first time, if you want to
stay married to him. Know ahead of time, it's going to
be HARD to forgive and forget. The second time don't
give him a thought--kick him out!*

Answer 7

He has to learn it for himself. You can leave and chance it but other than that you have to deal or give him the ultimatim. Don't say anything if you aren't for sure!!!