Hi again last time of posting for a while.
I have decided to try and sort out my issues with my estranged wife. I have been very unfair and have tried to justify a self destructive streak that has lasted over a year.
To put you in the picture, I had two business' fail on me and without my wife's knowledge I was left with over £40,000 of personal debt. I felt I had failed big style, and felt that how could i ask for anyone to give me time or love when I had failed so comprehessivly?
I now have a new full time job, but my estrange wife has a new job about 300 miles away and despite her trying to wait for me until a few weeks ago I have always pushed her away!
I know I have been very stupid, and I am willing to change jobs andmove down to be near her, to try and mae things work, but I know she is trying to move on.
So what's my question?
Not sure, but if I could have a few prayers from you I would be most grateful
2007-11-15 03:53:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have a major problem with communication. Your wife should have been included in your loses as she is your partner and would have shared the load with you. "Should have been", will not help now. She probably thinks you have someone else in your life. Perhaps you do...called work. You are to love your wife as you love your own body and as Christ loved the church. Have you humbled yourself to her and confessed your errors without making excuses? Has she found someone to take your place? What about your jobs...300 miles is a long distance relationship. Did you let her know that it was a lack of maturity on your part? Some people think that adultry is the only reason you can get a divorce...if they would read deeper they would see that it is because of the hardness in a person's heart....or the inability to forgive. My prayer for you is that you continue leaning on God, pray without ceasing, and continue in your spiritual growth as that is the work of a lifetime. I am also praying for your wife to see you through new eyes. Not who you were, but, who you are now. Also, Lord help this couple to become one in the Spirit and help them to be a blessing to one another and to all those around them. Forgive us all for errors in our relationships. Help us to be ready for your Kingdom when you come...In Jesus name
† Heaven Bound Prayer Warrior †
"Look up, for your redemption draweth nigh". Mmm
2007-11-17 03:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers, all anyone has to do is ask. I wan to let you know it is a privilage to be able to speak before the throne of the King of Kings.
My prayer is He give you the words to speak to your wife, to let her know how you feel. While this letter might not be the "end-all" answer, it should be a very good start. Share these words with her as well. I also pray he gives you patience to continue to pursue this and not to give up. I also pray our Lord brings a healing to the hurt in your wife's heart, and give her the compassion to be able to reconcile with you.
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† Travelling Prayer Warrior †
2007-11-17 19:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will certainly put in some prayers for you. I can understand what you are going through, because I am also trying to work things out with my estranged husband.... It is taking it one day at a time... Good luck and don't give up!!!
2007-11-15 03:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by Judith H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you weren't being so nice because you were stressed out to the max about debts and jobs. They say money is a leading cause of feuding between spouses. Well good luck to you. I hope that you can make things work.
2007-11-15 03:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not using a lawyer you need to. It depends upon the state you are in. I live in Iowa (US) and it is extremely hard to contest a will. They take it as the person's last wishes and you better have a really good reason to have it changed. In my state, the beneficiaries would use the estate's money because they are contesting the estate, not the person who is the executor of the estate. This is really something that you need to consult an attorney on.
2016-05-23 06:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by viva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I look from the view point of Hindu mythology every spouse has not only respect for the relations but also understand each other & if you have made some mistakes confess it to her and she will understand .After all you both are husband and wife & this relationship is pre-determined . Have faith and I pray that the God be with you at this hour of your need.
2007-11-15 04:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by opmehta 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her tell her how you feel. If you don't you'll always wonder what if... Be honest. And for the record we all fail it is how you react, and what you learn from it. If she is willing it will take time to earn her trust, odds are she loves you just is hurt and doesn't know if she can trust you. This is a womans oppinion. I will pray for you. Wish you the best in this.
2007-11-15 04:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, smart husband you are. Any woman would have done what she did........yes, you have shown you are selfish and work under the table without being a true partner and let her know about your business, until the water got to your nose, but if you would have been a success.....still you wouldn't have told her yet...............you know what? leave her alone, she doesn't need men like you, I am sorry , but the trust is gone, NOW you are willing to do whatever necessary, oh God, you have the nerve...........no, act like a man and get up yourself!!! if you love her, show it with facts not following like a hungry dog, humiliating yourself , or playing victim...c'mon my friend, grow up and be a man!!!
Don't worry about her, if you lose her, it will be for her own good.
2007-11-15 04:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Father in heaven,
this man has made some mistakes in his marriage. We have all made mistakes at some point. He is asking for your help in his life. Please give him wisdom to know which way to turn and what to do as you have promised in James 1:5. Please give him the strength to do whatever he needs to put his marriage back together or just to go on with his life....as you have promised in 2 Corinth. 12:9. God, he acknowledges his mistakes and wants to try again. I ask that you will be very close to him and guide and direct his life. I thank you for hearing my prayer that I pray in Jesus' name....AMEN!
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-11-17 05:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell her what you just said her and let her decide what she wants to do. I have experienced something like this and I ended up taking him back and he has become a better person. But, you have to be ready to accept what ever she decides. Good Luck
2007-11-15 04:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋