Why do married mother's criticize singlemoms who go out to the clubs 3 days a week?

Question

Nearly ALL singlemoms do it, and so will the married ones after they get a divorce. So, why do these married women get up on their high horse about poor parenting?

Answer 1

It's called Jealous.
It's called being a b*tch
It's called not being secure enough in themselves to have their own damn life and instead they can only live through their children and their husbands.
They have no identity that belongs to themselves.
They are ridiculous, pompous idiots that don't understand what it means to have some fun and that who's freaking business is it anyway.
They don't understand that it's a perfectly healthy way to relieve stress from the pressure of raising children all alone, and worry about a place to live, food, utilities, keeping your kids from becoming a stereotype, getting the car fixed, dental, medical, school projects, college, clothes...
whew...I could go on about this all day...

Answer 2

I have been a single mom, and now a married mom. Neither time did I go out three nights a week clubbing. The point is that you are a mother. That should be your first priority. Where are you children (or child) when you go out? How old are they? Just because you are single doesn't change the needs that your children have and what they need from you. It isn't wrong to go out and have fun, but you are spending half the time away from your child. If your kid if with the dad some nights, then I would say Have fun! But if they are with you...I would say you should slow down a bit and spend more time with your children. The other thing is, what do you do with your children then...and when? Do you go places with them? Is the money your spending to go out needed elsewhere?
I think the main thing is to have a balance in your life, and the scales should be in favor of the children whether you are single or married. They didn't ask to be born.. we brought them into the world and so it is our obligation to put them first. Why have a kid if you are just going to get a babysitter all the time?

Answer 3

You make a lot of assumptions about women in general. First of all, all single moms do not go to the bars. That may be your idea of a good time, but it's not for everybody. When I was a single mom, I was pretty busy with working a full time job, taking care of my kids and just trying to get everybody through the work and school week. Though I had a social life, my kids and their activities came first.

I have to think it is poor parenting when you think at least 3 nights out of every week should be for running the bars acting like a party girl instead of a parent. Everybody is different and everyone sets different priorities. Good luck to you and your kids. They will need it.

Answer 4

I'm a single mom and not that I criticize people for going out and having a good time--everyone needs a break. But I do think 3 days a week is a little much. A mother's top priority should be her children. Now, I do go out on weekends sometimes, especially the times my kids are staying with their father. But women have to be careful. There are lots of things out there that can take them away from their children. Say she got HIV or something from some casual fling with a man she met at the bar? What are her children going to do if their mother doesn't exist?

I think going out and doing something for yourself is ok. People don't know how hard it is to be a single mom until they have to actually do it themselves, and I'm here to tell you, it's HARD. Every minute is worth it, of course. My major malfunction comes in for moms who will drop their kids off with just anyone so they can go out and party all the time. I don't agree with that. But yeah, nothing wrong with having a good time every now and then as long as the babies are safe and know their mom loves them.

Answer 5

I think you said it in the last line. Poor parenting is poor parenting no matter who does it. And no I do not know of many mom's (single or married) that go out clubbing 3 nights a week. How many parents can afford to do that?

Answer 6

Because going to clubs rather then caring for your children is poor parenting. Really your kids are goingt o grow up thinking it is normal to have kids and run off to the bars. Really married mothers say this because they know and also one of the reasons they are still married because they place more importance on the quality of care they give their children
then going and getting plastered.

I think someone needs to grow-up and take some responsibilty.

Answer 7

I know many single moms that do NOT hang out in the clubs and bars 3 days a week. The single mom's that I know work their behinds off all week so that they can support their children. They don't have the time or energy to go hit up the bar scenes. It's called parenting.

Answer 8

Well maybe because these same single Mom's are always complaining they have no money, always need someone to babysit and sometimes arent doing a very good job of parenting.
I understand the need for a life outside the home for a single Mom but personally I think 3 times a week is excessive and dont see how any single Mom's can afford that.

Answer 9

I was at one time a single parent & liked to go out "occasionally" because I certainly couldn't afford to go out several nights a week. With rent, daycare, child expenses, groceries...ect..
Now I am married and hardly ever get a night out but indulge on a night out alone with my husband... I do however have a family memeber a year older than I with 4 kids and married an they live with HER parents, she goes out on tues,thurs & Saturdays & he goes on Mon, Wed & Fridays and it sickens me! My children are first & seems like priorities are just not in order yet... Not sure how old you are or if you are even talking about yourself but one day life will change for you untill then just remember that your child models YOUR behaviour.

Answer 10

Well who watches your kid when you go out 3 nights a week? Do you wait until your child is asleep and leave them with someone?

It doesn't seem like the most stable environment. if you are wanting to meet a nice man, there are better ways.

but I dont know that married women sit around talking about the crazy single girls who go out 3 nights/week. & I wouldnt say that someone who does is necessarily a bad parent.

Answer 11

The fathers of your children probably hooked up with you in a club. You don't earn enough money to afford paying a babysitter and spending money at a club. More than likely you'll end up pregnanat yet once again by some loser who could care less about you or his kid.

In all honesty, you should be sterilized so that you cannot have any more children you obviously can't support financially or emotionally.