what do you do about men hitting on you?

Question

i just got married about a month ago and have a two month old little girl !! i love my husband very much and so it makes me feel very uncomfortable when guys hit on me!!! i don't want to be rude to them, so i try to just shrug it off but it still bothers me!! what do i do?

Answer 1

YOU GET HIT ON MORE IF YOU HAVE A BF OR ARE ENGAGED OR MARRIED BECAUSE THE MEN SEE THAT YOUR HAPPY AND THEY WANT WHAT HE HAS THEY WANT TO BE HAPPY TOO SO JUST DO WHAT YOUR DOING...YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO BUT IF THEY KNOW YOUR MARRIED OR HAVE A B/F OR OR ENGAGED YOU WILL GET HIT ON ALL OF THE TIME ............SO GET USED TO IT JUST KEEP DOING WHAT YOUR DOING IT'S NORMAL THEY WANT WHAT YOU HAVE HAPPINESS...........

Answer 2

At first, I thought you were talking about abuse. I am SO glad you are not.
If you are married, I guess you have a ring. I am not getting married until Feb. of this year, but I have been with the same guy for 10 years, and we have a 2 year old. I know how you feel. First, take it as a compliment. It feels good to know that you just had a baby, and men (other than the baby's dad) still find you attractive. Secondly, just flash them your ring. You would be suprised how many guys run when they see a wedding band!! Either that, or just don't leave the house looking cute LOL!!

Answer 3

Gonna be honest here: if it makes you uncomfortable, then why are you concerned about seeming rude? The men who are hitting on you are the ones behaving rudely. They have either chosen to ignore, or are enticed and challenged by the ring on your finger. It's disrespectful and you have every right to express that.

Additionally, you have to seriously consider what sort of situations you are in when these men hit on you. Are you in the grocery store with your little girl? Or are you out with your girlfriends in a setting where getting hit on just comes with the territory (e.g. a BAR)? If you are putting yourself in situations where you are a prime target, I suggest you stop.

If your husband and daughter are important enough, and this issue concerns you enough to post your question on Yahoo!, then you must take these actions.

If you don't want men hitting on you, tell them!!!
Honesty is the least rude way out of an uncomfortable situation.

Answer 4

Don't be so damn cute! *LOL* Just kidding!!! :-) Within the first few minutes of talking with someone, I always mention my husband in one way or another. The inevitable question comes up--"How long have you been married?" When I answer them that it's been over 15 years, they will usually take the hint. However, there are those who don't CARE if you're married or not. Those are a little bit harder to shake off. Hey, I want to be your friend...I don't want to have a boyfriend on the side, thank you very much.

Answer 5

There's nothing to be bothered about, unless you're interested in these men. When a guy hits on you, simply tell him that you are happily married. That's all you have to do. You don't have to be rude, unless he tries to force the issue. Then you tell him that you are not interested and to leave you alone. Men are going to hit on women, until hell freezes over. Doesn't matter if the woman is married, single, in a wheelchair, or what! Men are going to hit on women. They may not know you're married; so tell them you are and stop making something out of nothing!

Answer 6

I get that too you really cant help it if you are attractive just dont make yourself look at all vulnerable and then when they do it just say look im married happily married but I dont think my husband would appreciate your comments. I know my hubby is crazy jealous and I had to conform to saying that when I was alone. He's in Iraq been there for 14 months and he worries about it sometimes but I love him and I would never want anyone else!!! You'll be fine and your husband will see it as a compliment i'm sure.

Answer 7

Lots of options here, and I've used them all:

1) Ignore it. If a come-on falls in a crowded room and nobody seems to hear it, did it happen?

2) Fail to get the point. "I'm sorry -- what? I know you know I'm married, so you can't mean what I thought you meant. I'm confused."

3) Laugh. Politely and sincerely, "Oh, come off it! I know you're kidding, but you'd better be careful - everyone else around might not know you're just being funny." If that doesn't work, just laugh.

Very few "comer-oners" will persist past you making them repeat it, or laughing about it. The few who do have earned a direct, surprised, "Eew, no!" Accompanied by disgusted look.

Answer 8

Guys are going to hit on you no matter what it is just a fact of life, calmly say something like "Well i am going to be late to meet up with my husband" you don't have to be rude just say im happily married or something.

In a few years you will start to like guys hitting on you, and that doesnt make you a cheat, it just makes you feel desirable. Just flirt but don't go any farther with that

Answer 9

You start by not "advertising." That is, if you don't want guys to look at you, wear more conservative clothes, makeup etc.

If you look like you're "available" then you probably are.

That should take care of a large majority of the "hitters."

You can then tell the rest that while you're flattered, you're unavailable and would appreciate they direct their attentions elsewhere.

That will take care of a lot of the more persistent.

The final few who won't take "no" for an answer don't deserve kindness. You can be perfectly well within your bounds to be really firm and really cold - but extremely polite - and tell them to leave you alone. Period.

Answer 10

You need to be rude you are a married women you love your husband and you need to put these men in there place so next time a man hits tell him I am married you ****. and walk away that is all you have to do or were your wedding ring with pride.

Answer 11

Yeah, it bothers me too. Really all you can do without seeming rude is to shrug it off.

If it's way out of line, then I tell them I'm married. If it's someone I know, I start talking about my husband (they hate that lol). If I don't kow them I just walk away.