Where do you meet people? How do you re join life after being in a marriage for so long and totally forgetting single life? I want to meet people my age with the same goals and interests. I am over partying and the mid life crisis thing. I feel so lost....
2007-11-15 03:32:08 · 39 answers · asked by NickyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
30 is young!!! Join clubs that peak your interest. Church is a good place to meet nice men. Be out and about, make your self available. Go to the gym..that will get you in shape..lots of nice people to meet there.
See if there is a single club near you. You can take trips and attend their functions.
Take care of yourself....emotionally as well as physically.
A cliche...today is the first day of the rest of your life. Don't look back...look forward...that is the way you are going.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 03:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by KyLoveChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and going through the same thing. I've been meeting a lot of new friends through networking events for my professional life. You'd be amazed at how many young single professionals there are. Church is another good way of meeting people. I've also tried dating from www.match.com, and met some new people that I didn't have connections with but that I consider friends. Just give it some time, things will look up before you know it. Afterall, you're lucky, you have a new lease on life!!
2007-11-15 03:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest meeting new people through friends. Sometimes a friend will know someone, or of someone that is single and maybe in the same situation ........ looking to find someone after being in a long relationship or marriage that has now gone south is daunting. I know from experience, the rules in dating have changed and it's a lot tougher to find that " right " person. Don't give up or fall back on that "maybe this is how my life is supposed to be" feeling. There is another person out there for you and you will find them or maybe they will find you, when you least expect it.
2007-11-15 03:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean "re join life" when did you stop living??
my first husband died when I was 35.. I was quite happy doing my own thing.. didnt need to worry about being single.. never did... I never lost touch with life.. I had hobbies (painting, gardening etc) and just enjoyed those.. I never really felt lost - well maybe for a month or so - but that was it..
I met somebody by chance - not by looking - the problem is that when you are looking you are likely to meet somebody who is looking for a vulnerable person to take advantage of... this is how many women are hurt - emotionally and financially..
become comfortable with yourself and enjoy being single.. dont become despirate - dont become needy of another person to make you feel whole - if you do you will never be whole.
2007-11-15 03:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Early 30's??? Mid-life crisis??? Honey, your life is JUST BEGINNING. Go back to school, join some groups, hang out with friends...you don't have to go to the bars to have a social life. There's always myspace-sign up and meet some people.
Don't feel lost, you have your life ahead of you, sounds like you are maturing and trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life. I went through the same thing, it will get easier.
2007-11-15 03:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new hobbies and interests that involve meeting other people. Maybe take up an evening class to learn a new skill, or take up dance classes.
Whatever you enjoy doing, make it a social thing, so you will meet other people who enjoy the same things you do. You're still young, you know! I'm in my early 30s too. If my marriage ended, I know I wouldn't be short of things to do with myself. Call up your friends and go out together.
2007-11-15 03:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a potential 'love interest', then your best bet would be online through Yahoo personals or other dating sites. It's a good way to get to know someone before you even meet them. If thats not your cup of tea and you are done with the bar scene, i'd suggest searching online for volunteer opportunities in your local area that interest you (Habitat for Humanity, volunteer at local hospital or shelter). Take a class you find interesting (yoga, tai chi). Choose things you find interesting that way you'll be sure to meet people you have something in common with. This might be helpful...http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends. Hope this helps a bit!
2007-11-15 03:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by wednesday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with some one for a long time. This is good for you to give yourself some time alone and get to know yourself...maybe the new you. "Life beggins at 30". It's not too late to start your life all over again. Be active with your life. Do volunteer work. Find a new hobby instead of partying. Focus on your career. Keep your focus on yourself.
2007-11-15 03:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel...I was with my ex husband since I was 15 years old and we got married when Iwas 21 and we have two children together...I'm 30 now and life seems so different now that I'm divorce. It seems like I was trapped in a time zone where he and I lived and nothing else matter...I realized that I need to get out and meet new people...Although I myself am also over the party life going out with mutual friends helps open the doors for potential new people...Don't overwhelm yourself and don't get discourage...But, also don't become a piece of furniture at home...Have fun and enjoy your free time..
2007-11-15 04:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying,...I'm divorced after 33 years, sure it would be nice to met other guys but right now for me the timing is off, it's my time.
Back to your question some people go to dating sights on line most charge you to join them, if I have to pay to met someone forget it!! I wish you the best in finding people, I feel when you least expect it, it will happen, so I look my best before leaving the apartment, even if it's to take out the trash.
2007-11-15 03:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋