what to do if it is not a dads time to visit and he is demanding it but he will not visit on his weekends?

Answer 1

Does he have a legitimate reason (he works weekends so weekdays he can spend more time with the kid/s)? If not, then it's a control ploy to gain power and shouldn't be encouraged. If your child is old enough to get involved in school activities, it would be good in many ways, including having a legit reason to say "no."

"I'm sorry, s/he has a scout meeting/game/club meeting on Wednesday and we are taking cookies." There's also just plain "no." "No, that won't work for me."

You want to be accomodating, to a point. If he has a legit reason, you might want to accomodate him in the interests of peace. If he's just using the kid to jerk your chain, however, you need to remind him of the terms of your agreement. He expects you to honor it, so he should, also.

Answer 2

Tell him he must follow the court ordered visitation schedule. If he cannot do this then you will just have to look at cancelling visitations until he can do this or you will look at ending custody all together. He must understand that when he comes around on the days he is not suppose to it just screws up the kids even more. They are expecting to see him on the weekend then he just shows up. Tell him if he doesn't smarten up you will get a restraining order and he will have supervised visits hopefully that will make him wake-up.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Tell him that the court order states he visits on weekends that this is your time, and if he really doesn't want the weekends, he needs to file a motion in court. You are under no obligation to let him visit if that's not what the court order states.

Answer 4

The demands aren't about visiting the kids - it's about being the boss, and getting his way. he sounds like quite the prick, so congrats on getting rid of him, sorry you have to raise kids with him.

Hold your ground by whatever means necessary - show him he's not the big di*k in town anymore.

Answer 5

If it's happening all the time, why? Is his work schedule interfering? Make an effort to change the schedule IF there is something legitimate in the way....otherwise, tell him there is a schedule and if he can't live by it, too bad. You have a right to make plans on your weekends.

Answer 6

well at least he is demanding to see his kids. unless you have plans for them or something else the kids need to do, then i say let them see their dad. You are lucky he even wants to, alot dont so take it. but explain to him that he needs to have more communication with you and if he cant do it on his weekend to phone you and make arrangments to do it on a weekend that isnt his.

Answer 7

Depends. Do you want a pain in the a$$ hassling you? Try to work it out in a friendly way first. Maybe his schedule changed. Talk it out first. If that doesn't work, wave the court order in his face and remind him to follow it.

Just try to insulate the kids from it all. Sometimes you need to give in for the kid's sake.

Answer 8

As a child who has gone through this I can say that the first two answers are both correct. He should respect your boundaries and the court order, but you should also not be so apprehensive toward him because he is expressing that he wants to participate in his children's lives. Try your best to be civil toward each other and keep what's best for the children in forefront of your mind instead of emotions.

Answer 9

Let him see as far as possible to u.In case very much inconvinience to u ask him to inform u in advance.Proper communication can save lot of trouble.Lack of communication most of the time results in seperation.

Answer 10

He needs a life too and maybe he has something else to do. You should be grateful he wants to see his children and let him see them justabout when he wants to. You are lucky - you have the kids. Don't be selfish and don't forget kids want to see their Dad, it's not about you at all.