Just found out about 3 weeks ago,
Im extremely happy and excited (we both are) My boyfriend and I were planning on getting married within the next 2 years so this was a tad bit off and unplanned but not too far off...
Hes being really awesome about it and has agreed to support us while I finish Grad School (4-5 years clinical psychology) hes already got his own buisness and has a steady income....
HOWEVER,
I am 21, my dad still sees me as his little princess (im the only girl) and I do not think he is quite ready to "see me off" yet...
I feel so bad everytime I see him (he doesnt know yet) because he has no idea and will most likely be extremely worried (as most dads would be) I wasnt even ready to tell him we were moving in together!
Im not scared to tell him, I just dont want to see him sad or hurt (he's my knight in shining armour afterall) anyone have any advice??
2007-11-15 03:30:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
wow, all of these answers are so great!! I feel loaded with confidence and ready to tell my dad the GOOD NEWS!
2007-11-15 03:47:11 · update #1
If hes knows you live together, then he has to know that you guys have sex. Sex leads to pregnancy. Just tell him. Good luck
2007-11-15 03:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your dad is going to love you no matter what. I don't think that giving him a grandbaby is going to upset him. It sounds like you and your boyfriend already planned on having a family and he seems like a great guy. You have your head on your shoulders and are planning to go to college and that's great. I was 21 when I had my little one and the situation was kind of the same. My dad's biggest worry was that we were not married yet. We did things a little backwards, but it all worked out fine in the end. He works and I go to school and take care of the little one. good luck to you!! Just let your dad know. It's better for you to tell him during a dinner out or something then him find out or hear it from someone else.
2007-11-15 03:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you take him out for dinner or something and tell him then. He won't be hurt, you are a grown up after all and your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. Sure you are his little princess but he'll be happy for you. Tell him your bf supports you and he's happy too so he doesn't feel like you got raped and the guy run away (as some dad's do LOL). Better yet, your BF should be there when you tell him so he knows he loves you and you guys are planning to get married. Don't worry he'll be happy to be a grandpa. Congrats to you.
2007-11-15 03:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand holding your parents, especially Daddy, up high. I too am a bit of a Daddy's girl. However, you need to realize that now your boyfriend and this baby are your new family. It's hard, I know. But I'm sure your dad loves you immensely and will only want for you to be happy.
Tell him with confidence and let him know just how truly happy and blessed you are, and I'm sure he'll see it that way too.
Good luck!
2007-11-15 03:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will first off, your dad loves you he will so much understand he may feel your still to young but over all he loves you and want nothing but good things in life for you. I was 27 years old when i got pregnant with my first and only child and i was scared to death to tell my mom and family but when i did tell my mom she just huged me and said it will all work out and be ok. She was happy for me and i also was by my self no boyfriend to help any more. So good luck tell your dad he will be happy because he loves you.
2007-11-15 03:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to break his heart (says the father of a little princess). you should've told him a long time ago how you planned to move in with this guy, whom you're tied to forever now, whether you two get married or not. I hope that you have the stones to be up front with your dad soon. the longer you put things off, the more difficult it'll be to explain and for him to understand. you're a big girl now, and able to make your own decisions. he's just going to accept that you've made a huge decision, having unprotected sex and risking this exact scenario, not taking his feelings into account beforehand. Girls......................please don't think that your dad is a mean old ogre that you can't talk to. He's just the opposite, you just gotta talk to him!!!! It's hard to let go of our little girls, because we were boys at one time. we know how things go, we used to be in the same shoes yuou're wearing right now.
2007-11-15 03:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty really is the best option in these cases. It sounds like you have a good plan worked out (a supportive boyfriend, financial plan, etc) so that's a good first step. You might be surprised at your father's response to the news, but if he is intially upset then you need to just let him be and he will talk to you when he is ready.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-11-15 03:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Madison 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you approach him scared he will feel that. You need to just tell him with happiness and confidence that you are about to be a Mom, which is the best thing in the world :)
good luck to you
2007-11-15 03:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by tara m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 20 and have alwasy been daddys little girl!! him & my bf just started to get along & i got pregnant. I though it was the worst timing ever!!
I didnt tell my parents until i was 4months along!
it was terrifying. But i had my bf do all the speaking
(makes him look more responsible) & i was sooo
suprised by my parents reaction. they were BOTH
very excited & happy. So ur dads reaction may
surprise you. Even tho u may be pregnant u always
be daddys little baby & no matter he will be there
to support you. So i would tell them asap.
good luck & congrats
2007-11-15 03:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lils 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a father of two teenage girls, the only time my daughters hurt my feelings is when they're unwilling to confide in me because they fear my reaction.
Tell your dad yourself - you owe him at least that much respect for all he's done to raise you. Show him that you have the courage and character to face up to hardship and uncertainty. He'll respect you for your maturity and be proud of the person you've become, in spite of any misgivings the pregnancy might bring.
Trust in your father is the greatest gift you can afford him. Trust that he's strong enough to absorb the initial shock, and that he's still going to love you and your child as much now as ever.
I'm curious that you didn't mention your mom?
Find a quiet time for you, your boyfriend, your dad, and your mother to sit down and tell them that you have something important to say, assuming your mom is still with you.
If the boyfriend is really going to be there for you as a father and future husband, now would be a good time for him to demonstrate to your parents his commitment by going with you and facing your parents as a couple.
My greatest concerns if my daughters would get pregnant would be their health, to finish school, and to get their careers started.
My secondary concern would be how much the boyfriend is going to really step up to the plate. Allow your father to be skeptical of your boyfriend and let him earn your dad's respect with deeds rather than words.
2007-11-15 03:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by foolhardly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not a kid anymore... deep down, he knows that. So, take the mature approach and tell him straight out, let him know that although it was "unplanned" it wasn't far off from your goal, and you're happy about it and hope he will be too. And you know what? Chances are he will surprise you.
2007-11-15 03:39:39 · answer #11 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋