How can I be a homewrecker!?

Question

Excuse me but how can I be a homewrecker because I want to sleep with a man who's married? If he cheats on his wife, the marriage is a facade anyways. I'm not going to force him to sleep with me. He either will or he won't. The fact of the matter is if he decides to be with me, he obviously doesn't value his vows. Not my problem. If it wasn't me, it would be someone else, down the line eventually. He's hot and sexy and I want him. I know he wouldn't mind it. He can keep his composure when I see him in the hallway at work. So, how is this my fault? HE's the homewrecker.

No, I am a woman and a very hot and horny one at that who wants a particular married man and if he takes me up on it, i'm going to give him a wonderful ride and send him back to his ugly wife.

They don't have an avatar that looks like me. Think Angie Everhart but younger. Trust me. I can get this man. I just have been trying to be good but screw it. His wife's a douche. I don't see how he goes home at night with that nasaly, nagging $&%*!

OMG. Please don't fully trust anyone. There are some women that men just can't say no to. I don't care how good you think you have it. All men have sex drives that makes it nearly impossible to pass up a certain type of woman if she's trying to seduce him. Please wake up. This isn't Leave it to Beaver Land. LOL!

Stop assuming I don't have self-esteem. I'm actually an egomaniac and extremely narcissistic.

Art-My hole is pretty tasty. If I had you alone for five minutes, you'd say the same.

I'm horny just reading all these nasty comments. Yes, I am a bad girl.

Pacco for President!

Answer 1

I think she is not a home wrecker. I think she has a point. I think we all should stop treating both husband and wife as "objects". I know from experience that many women and men as well, once enter into a marriage agreement, then they start to take their partners for granted. At this case, I think each involving party has the right or the choice to act in a way that is inconsistent to their marriage contract. This can only be the case if one of the involving person stops honorning marriage duties and failed to listen and respect the partner. So why do men/women cheat? there is not a single answer and you should definitely not placing a blame on the third party involved. I have had a long term relationship before for almost a decade. The girl cheated on my a few times and I have never once got mad at the guy who was involved. The reason is simple, it wasn't the guy's fault, but it was clearly my ex-girl friend's fault. She was her own person and she was free to do whatever she wished. I ended the relationship because there were just too much drama. I never treat my partner as an object and I do not assume ownership even after we are married. I think it is sad to be living in a relationship that your partner feels to be stuck with you for the rest of your life. Sadly, but true that over 80% of marriage is like that today. I encourage everyone who is married to get a divorce because marriage is unhealthy. It makes you insecure and imagining that you own a person when you don't. Both men and women have alot to work on and learn before marriage can be of something that is meaningful. So don't blame the third person, ask yourself why you two failed to communicate and satisfy. If it is just a compatibility issue, although it hurts, you must make a break and let it go. It is not easy, but it is better get it done right and living it wrong.

Answer 2

Yeah, he's the bank robber, you just drive the getaway car.
(It's funny-everyone wants to blame someone, when problems like this are usually everyone's fault--his, his wife's and yours).

If you go after him, you are a homewrecker, plain and simple. But if he seduces you and you go along with it, then you are right--staying away from him won't help his marriage. But to assume that he had a false marriage just because you were able to lead him astray is wrong--people make mistakes. Not to mention that there can't be much more than sex you could get out of the relationship--he has no time, love, or money for you. If you push for more than sex, then you are literally wrecking his home for nothing--you'll never have a chance at happiness with him, so why are you screwing up his life and everyone else.

The self-centered attitude and lame attempts to justify your actions almost prove that you need to work on your high self-esteem problem. You are seriously out of touch with how evil you could become if you continue to always think that you are right because you are able to find someone more wrong than you.

Answer 3

Sorry but you have the ability to say no. You have the ability to say to him if you were single then perhaps i would be with you. Just for the fact that his marriage is on the rocks doesn't give you the right to sleep with a married man.

If the shoe was on the other foot i am sure you would call any women sleeping with your husband a home wrecker. Stop trying to play the innocent one and find yourself a man that ISN'T married or attached

Its a two way street and yes you are playing some part as a homewrecker

Answer 4

Here's my take on the situation. Because he's married that doesn't mean that his libido is totally shot. If he had a chance with a 400 pound woman he still might take it. It has nothing to do with how hot and horny you are. Most men will take the opportunity to sleep with someone who is offering it up to them. However, that doesn't mean that you're so irresistable and that's why he did it, and it doesn't mean that he doesn't love his wife either. It just means that he's getting something for free.

My problem comes with what happens after you get it from him. Let's say everything goes wonderfully well when you have sex with him, right? It goes your way and you two have a full-blown affair. But then what? Will you not be content until he decides to leave his wife?

As far as the ugliness of his wife is concerned, I think you're just a bit jealous on this issue because YOU want to be with him. And just remember that one day you will be ugly too. In the minds of many, you already ARE ugly for your attitude and demeanor on this question.

Answer 5

It takes 2 but really you have the right to refuse his advances if you know he is married. You make it your problem by involving yourself with a married man. Yes he may be hot and sexy but really that is why he is taken and is off limits. Put yourself in his wife's shoes how would you feel about the woman that had the nerve to sleep with your husband maybe that would make you think a bit more about your predicament.

Sometimes when you place yourself in the opposite position it makes more sense not to do anything. I thought you ladies are suppose to stick together and watch out for each other
it seems though you just want to stab this one in the back.

Please grow-up and find your own man. Really do you want a guy that has no morals and has the nerve to hurt his wife this way.

Answer 6

First, nothing sucks more then being the wife...i know first hand. however your right, ultimately it's the husband who made the commitment to his wife and you owe her nothing. But remember a man who will do it with you will do it to you and karma is one nasty *****. You may owe the wife nothing but there is something to be said for being a respectful and morale person. what you put out always comes back.
Besides, he's not the only hot and sexy man out there, it sounds like you have a touch of "you want what you can't have."

Answer 7

I think youre addicted to the buzz of the danger and illicitness of forbidden sex.
Married people are very protective of their marriages thats why all these people are so upset at you. Its their whole life - literally so they have to take it seriously.
The man/woman they have will be the last they ever have so they REALLY want this person to be just theirs. Besides - they made a legal, and social promise to stick with this set up.
in society we as single hot women are supposed to go along with their (married people) rules - very boring but thats the truth.
also, theres a legal side to this that you could be mentioned in his divorce - very dramatic and a thing to avoid.
Why not get your saucy kicks another way?Threesomes are fun or 19 year olds or porn..
I get your point but the man could become your problem..

Answer 8

if that is what you want to think to feel that you have no blame, there is no way you will understand. you are right, he does not value his wife and his vows he once made to her, not your problem. what is your problem is that you do not have any morals or self respect. it is sad to hear of a young beautiful woman think nothing of herself than just an object. is this the only thing you have in your life? there are plenty more hot and sexy single men than there are married ones, if what you want is to get some a**. why lose your self in a meaningless relationship. he may be the home wrecker, but you are the wh*re. sorry but if you ask we will answer. i feel sorry for you, because carma is a b***h!

Answer 9

And you`ll get an STD, because if he cheats with you, he`s been doing it to the others sl@#s honey...Trust me, you`ll be the one that will get the blame and the shame. Just for the fact that you`re asking the question tells me you know how the game works. You sleep with a married man and the nasty words and the fingers get pointed in your direction... It`s not worth it. Some men, ( married or unmarried are sleazebags).They aren`t worth the sex.Trust me. I know.

Answer 10

I'm beginning to think this is nothing more than some worthless troll trying to get a rise out of people. If not, here's what I have to say:

You; my dear, are what married women like myself consider low-class, worthless TRASH. Sometimes married men ARE unhappy with their wives but that is NO reason for dirty whores like you to capitalize on that. Sometimes a married man needs time to work things out at home, not have some whore use it to her advantage. When you will willingly chase a man who is married and possibly unhappy, you are just as accountable as he is.

Hot and horny? Big friggen deal. You're nothing special. You'll get old, hairy, ugly, and nasty too someday. Karma is a b*tch sweetie. You'll get yours. And when you do, believe me, you'll be so sorry.