2007-11-15 03:24:43 · 19 answers · asked by young_bp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course not! It's perfectly natural to feel grief over the death of a loved one, nobody should have to pretend not to feel that. Please tell me that you DON'T think less of your husband for breaking down over this? Men are people too, y'know - people with feelings and emotions, not robots.
If you're a man, and worried about what your wife will think... honestly, it's natural and understandable, and you should be able to share your feelings with your wife and look to her for comfort. If you're a man and your wife has reacted as you described above... then I'm sorry, she's a cold-hearted witch. You'd be perfectly right to think less of HER for behaving that way.
2007-11-15 03:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by marmiteontoast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get mad, of course not, why should I ? I would be there to do my best to console him. Just because a man holds back emotions most of the time does not mean he does not have any. For a wife to even question this indicates a lack of empathy for her husband. A wife should not stand to judge her husband, but to be the soft shoulder for him to come home to. If your husband begins to feel he is unable to display any feelings of emotions because you will question his manhood, sooner or later he will close himself off from you and when an opportunity arrives that another woman is there to listen and show compassion do not be surprised if he goes for it. My intent here is to open up your eyes and heart to your husband before you break your own heart. I do hope I have helped.
2007-11-15 11:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, in fact I would worry more if he doesn't break down. My husband tends not to cry over things I think he should. He has not broke down as far as I know about his mother's death, and I worry about his mental and physical health because of it. Don't get me wrong, I am glad I am the crier in the relationship, but there is nothing wrong with crying every now and then, it's actually very good for the heart.
2007-11-15 11:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Katlynnelore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Far from it! I would love that he was comfortable enough to show his emotions around me, especially at such a difficult time. We are a team now, I lean on him, it's nice for him to lean on me once in awhile too! If the breakdown is severe and lasts months, I would have a more difficult time dealing with it though, it would be hard to live with someone under depression for that long, the negativity would probably get to me..... I'd definitely be understanding though and do all I could to get him back where he was! Love is all about understanding each other, being there for each other through good and bad, supporting each other, etc.
2007-11-15 11:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg, not at all! I would probably see him as more human. We view our husbands and these strong minded, masculine, emotionless, machines that are there for us to lean on. So when the time comes for the roles to reverse it can come as kind of a shock. But personally I would never think less of my husband for breaking down.
2007-11-15 11:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be aterrible wife if you did - you should support your husband, that's what marriage is about. The death of a relative is, and should, be upsetting for anyone.
2007-11-15 11:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Paul M 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depending on which relative if it was someone he did not even now then yes and no because he is sentimental and in a relationship I think that is sexy but it would piss me of if he did it just to get attention. And if it was someone close then that is okay you are suppose to cry when someone you loved has passed.
2007-11-15 11:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I would feel as sorry as he would feel about the passing because when we married, we became one. His losses are my losses. I would welcome the opportunity to comfort my husband. Now if he was just simply breaking down everyday over essentially nothing, I would be looking into getting him some help!
2007-11-15 11:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. He's human. Just because he's a man doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings. I'd be a little concerned if he DIDN'T break down. That would mean he's pretty darn cold inside.
2007-11-15 11:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord! Why on earth would I feel less of my husband?? What a stupid question!!
2007-11-15 11:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Buzzoff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋